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Men, has the Lord placed a devotional on your heart that you would like to share with other standers?

As a Marine, there is an iconic photo of a First Sergeant in Iraq who is being carried out of a building by two other Marines. He is still holding his pistol in one hand and you can see blood running down his uniform. He had heard that Marines were pinned in the building. He took a squad of men and entered the building to help them. Through the course of the fighting, the First Sergeant continued to shout words of encouragement to the Marines and was shot seven times. He even used his body to save the lives of Marines from hand grenades, having more than 47 pieces of shrapnel in his body. He is credited with saving the lives of the Marines in the building.

He was there when the fighting was at its toughest, when the Marines around him needed his help, shouting words of encouragement to keep pressing forward.

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!  Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 

This verse paints a great picture of how we should live our Christian walk. God never intended for us to live our life alone as Christians. He created a help-mate for Adam. He sent the disciples out by two’s. He knew we would need help, encouragement, and at times rebuke to maintain the Christian walk we should live.

As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.  Proverbs 27:17 

As Marines get ready to enter and clear a house or room, they are waiting for one thing before they move, the tap on their shoulder from their buddy behind them that says, “I am here and I have your back.”

As Christian men, we need accountability, someone to tap us on the shoulder and say, “I have your back.” Our marriages and our families did not fall apart because someone left; they fell apart because our Lord and Savior was not the cornerstone of our lives, our marriages and families. We need accountability from people who know us, really know us, to encourage and let us know when we are losing sight of who God is, to let us know that they “have our back” and will encourage us to press forward in the Truth of God.

We need accountability now more than ever. We need to seek first the Kingdom of God, not our wants, our desires, not even our marriages. God needs to be first and foremost in our lives, above our own lives, our wives, and our children. Only then can we walk in the abundant life that God has for us.

Even King David said, “Do not let my heart be drawn to what is evil so that I take part in wicked deeds along with those who are evildoers; do not let me eat their delicacies. Let a righteous man strike me—that is a kindness; let him rebuke me—that is oil on my head. My head will not refuse it, for my prayer will still be against the deeds of evildoers.”  Psalm 141:4-5

He was asking God to hold him accountable for his actions; that his inner circle would not be the evil men of this world, but that his close accountability would come from godly people.

Who are your close friends? I am not saying that we have to rid ourselves of non-Christian friends. If you are walking a godly life, than you will be witness to them. My dad always told me growing up that if you were standing on a chair, it is easier to pull someone off than to pull someone up. Reminding me that if your close friends are non-Christian, or do not live a Christian life, it is easier for you to be pulled away from the things of God than for you to stand strong in your Christian walk. Also, if these are the people you confide in for answers, are you receiving the godly counsel that God intended for your life?

David said do not let me be drawn to what is evil in this world. He is not just talking about drunkenness, pornography, and adultery. Evil includes more than this – unforgiveness, deception, envy, anger, bitterness, selfishness, wanting things my way, etc.

Who holds you accountable to live everyday sold out to God? Who holds you accountable to only speak life over you wife, marriage, your children and family? Who holds you accountable to forgive, pray and seek God daily? Who is there to tap you on the shoulder to say “I have your back?”

Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers.  Psalm 1:1 

I know I have made a lot of mistakes in my life. Through the years, rarely have I crowded my inner circle with godly men. It makes me wonder, the difference it would have made in my own walk with Christ, the difference it could have made in my relationship with my wife. For the first time in my life, I see men who are not afraid to share their problems, seeking encouragement from godly men. These men are growing in the Lord. We as a people are not perfect, but the difference is the desire to walk away from the sin that hinders in our life and be the men, husbands, and fathers that God called us to be. It has been amazing to see changes in the lives of people when we seek God, and strive to live the way God intended for us to live.

Who are you holding accountable in their Christian walk? In their stand? Are you walking in obedience to the Word of God?

Standing in Faith and on the Word of God that our Marriage is healed!

David in Texas


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