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Am I Willing to Love Others the Way Jesus Loves Me?

If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.  1 Corinthians 13:1-3 

Ouch! If you read past the title and are still with me, I am proud of you! That is a tricky question.

Am I willing to love people the way Jesus loves me?

If I were honest, my answer would be, “Yes, but….”

I would probably list some conditions.

I will love them with an everlasting love as long as –

They don’t hurt my family or me.
They don’t ruin my reputation.
They are loveable.
They act like me. 

It is so easy to love someone who behaves as I do. It is easy to love someone who loves me. The hard part comes when we need to love someone who is like a porcupine. With every attempt at showing that person love, we feel the sting of a quill piercing our skin.

Some people might be hard to love because they don’t like me. Some might be hard to love because they are different from me. Some might be hard to love because they hurt me.

What about loving the person who has hurt you? For some, that may be a spouse. For others, it may be a person you have never met, but they have still caused you harm.

Are you able to show love to them? Are you able to pray for them? 

It isn’t easy, but God can give you the ability to love even those who have hurt you.

Romans 12:9-10 says, Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. 

What does honoring one another above yourself look like?

    • Giving up my right to hurt someone who has hurt me.
    • Letting offenses go without making the offender “pay” for their actions.
    • Forgiving.
    • Showing humility and compassion to those I come in contact with.

What does it look like for you?

I know that you may have deep, deep hurts. You may have a person in mind to whom you need to show love, but you don’t even like that person. I challenge you to take the first step.If my dad were alive today, he would probably tell you that the unconditional love my mom showed him was one of the most significant factors in softening his heart. She just loved him.

“Charlyne, I am not picking up the kids this weekend. I made plans.”
     “No problem, Bob.”
“I don’t have any money to help you with the bills.”
     “That’s okay, Bob, God will provide for us.”
“I’m never coming home.”
     “I will never stop praying for you.”

Was it easy? I’m sure she would tell you no. But the more she showed him the love the Father had shown her, the more God filled her with His love. Anger and bitterness take a lot of work. It tears you up on the inside. It takes effort to remember a person’s past offenses.

Why not let go of the anger and find someone to show God’s love to instead?

What are some ways you can show love to someone around you?

Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.  1 Peter 4:8

God bless,



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24 days ago

I love this way of loving, but we need take precaution as humans to make sure that our loving/goodness is taken with a grain of salt, because showing certain people too much love / vulnerability can get us hurt too right away and even put us in danger. Any comments on this?

21 days ago

This is good and timely.

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