Restored and Redeemed

Has your marriage been restored? Restored & Redeemed is a devotional for those in a restored marriage.

Bad Dreams

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.  2 Corinthians 10:5 

I can’t sleep. It is about 4:30 A.M. on a Saturday, a time of the week when deep, restful sleep comes so easily to most people. But I had a dream that woke me up. I lay in bed for a few minutes, but the longer I lay there, the more I woke up, so I got up to check the overnight email.

In the mail were messages from two female standers who posed almost identical situations: “My husband has said he wants to come home, and he makes gestures that way, but he cannot break it off with the other woman.” Both also said they were about ready to give up. I pray they and their husbands realize they are on track for marriage restoration. I pray they do not give up but stay in the spiritual battle for their home for one more day and then for every day after that until they have victory.

I do not know how to express the next item I have to share with you, but let’s try. Please understand my heart even if my words do not come across correctly.

I am awake because I had a harrowing dream–about the other woman from over 20 years ago. I know nothing about dream interpretation, but I certainly do know when Satan is playing head games with me. The best thing for me to do was to get up and share my experience so that you might benefit from what just happened to me at some point in your restoration process.

My dream was about the other woman. Yes, over 20 years later, the enemy still attempts to use my past to torment me. Instead, his scheme will be used, I pray, to help you in the days ahead.

The setting was a hotel. (Hold on, this is not sexual, and everything turns out all right.) In that dream, Charlyne and I were remarried and staying at the hotel to attend a Christian conference.

It was Sunday morning, and we were getting ready to attend the final session. The phone rang, and Charlyne answered it in another room. She handed the phone over as the call was for me. The other woman was on the phone. She asked me to save her a seat at the upcoming session. She said, “After today, everyone will know about us.” I hung up the phone in my dream, wondering how much of the call Charlyne had heard.

In my dream, when my wife and I entered the huge auditorium, my deceased parents and one of my grandsons were also there, all people I would not want to disappoint. My mom and dad had saved three seats for my wife and me. One of my parents said, “We saved the extra seat you wanted.” I was in a panic. I did not want the extra seat.

About an hour ago, that dream brought me wide awake in an instant. I looked at Charlyne sleeping soundly and peacefully next to me and realized this had all been a bad dream.

Do not allow my dream to discourage you despite the fact that I have not seen nor heard from the other woman in years. I share this incident so that you will be prepared when something similar happens to you.

How will I handle my dream about the other woman? Per our agreement, I will tell Charlyne what happened at an appropriate time today. My wife will understand and will be praying against future dreams.

I also have some work to do with the Lord. I have not attempted to peek behind any physical doors with that person, but I must check my spirit that I am not playing near any emotional doors with thoughts of that person.

That is my way of handling this dream, and when it happens to you, I pray it will also be yours. On the other hand, I could do an Internet search for the other person to share that I had dreamed about her. If there were some ember of the affair still glowing, my actions would be like pouring gasoline on it. The result could be the second death of our marriage. That, I suspect, is the enemy’s scheme.

Regardless if you have been out of that other relationship for 20 years or 20 minutes, please do not allow Satan to re-enter your life and marriage through thoughts he places in your mind. Yes, a battle rages, but we both know who will win unless you surrender. There is too much at stake for you to do that.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy — think about such things.  Philippians 4:8

God bless,


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