Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans. Proverbs 16:3
It seems like couples are usually made up of one person who likes to plan and one who is the more spontaneous person. Which category do you fall in?
Nobody ever plans to fail, but all around us, marriages are failing every day. That happens for various reasons, but one big reason is when two people stop being intentional about making their relationship a priority.
Even if you aren’t a planner, you can probably point out several areas of your life where you have been so purposeful things get done. Do you eat lunch every day, or does it just happen? How about going to bed at night? Do you have a routine you follow, or do you stay awake until the sun comes up? See, you are a planner!
What would happen in your relationship if you started being intentional and doing some planning around your marriage? Don’t let your marriage fail because you don’t have a plan.
You may have set up a beautiful financial plan for retirement. You may have lined up the best life insurance so your family is taken care of when you die. Those are great things. We plan in many areas of our lives every day, but how much planning are you putting into your relationship?
Do you have a plan for when you both put your phones down and have a time of connection each day? If you don’t, you may find that the TV is on all evening, you go to bed at different times, and you never actually take time to talk and connect. Do you remember when you were dating? If you were like me and my husband, we could talk for hours. What happened? Make a plan for communication.
Do you have a plan for a date night at least once per month? I understand the scheduling issues that could arise around pre-planning a meaningful night out, but you will never overcome those scheduling issues if you don’t make a plan. We have had seasons when we could not leave our youngest child at home or even with a relative because she was sick. In those situations, plan for an at-home date. Order a pizza and put a puzzle together. It doesn’t have to cost a fortune, but it does take a plan.
Do you have a plan for your family’s spiritual growth? Is there a set plan to attend church each week?
This year, try to be more intentional about making a plan for your marriage. It will give you and your spouse something to look forward to. If your relationship is strained right now and communication is not happening, making a plan for a time to talk can help remove that awkwardness from starting a conversation.
Don’t fail to plan in your most important earthly relationship! Love your spouse enough to set aside your pride, make some intentional plans, and see how Jesus begins to change your marriage.
Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 1 John 4:7