I, even I, am he who comforts you. Who are you that you fear mere mortals, human beings who are but grass, that you forget the Lord your Maker, who stretches out the heavens and who lays the foundations of the earth, that you live in constant terror every day because of the wrath of the oppressor, who is bent on destruction? For where is the wrath of the oppressor? Isaiah 51:12-13
Charlyne and I were glued to the television as reports came in about Hurricane Charley’s damage to Florida’s West Coast. Our Governor at the time, Jeb Bush, toured the damaged area by helicopter. Afterward, while addressing people in that area and the media, the governor spoke about people who had not evacuated the area when it was suggested that they do so. His comment that they had developed “hurricane amnesia” triggered a thought within me. Why have so many people, even within the church, developed “divorce amnesia”?
I suspect the Governor’s comment touched me because of something I had heard Charlyne say on a recording I edited. Charlyne spoke about the old church directories with pictures of families. She suggested that people go back and look at families in their older directories and think about where that family is today. My wife and I have done that, and many of the families we knew when our children were growing up are now divorced.
What happened? How can one church family after another divorce? I think it is because the enemy is busy infecting men and women with divorce amnesia. They forget how the family next door was destroyed by divorce. They forget the tears of an abandoned spouse. Most of all, they forget how Satan will take every opportunity and use it to damage a marriage.
The person with divorce amnesia set out to have some “fun” by the world’s standards. That man or woman soon discovered their brand of fun was addictive. Soon, it was taking more and more of whatever fun they were involved in to satisfy their cravings. The next step is divorce court unless someone takes a stand for that marriage. They were dabbling in not f-u-n, but another three-letter word, s-i-n. Before long, their gaze was off of their marriage and onto s-i-n.
Just as the Governor is concerned over people with hurricane amnesia, you and I need to be concerned over divorce amnesia. One of the most effective ways of reminding everyone who knows you about the damage done by divorce and that God can heal broken marriages will be your restored marriage. The most important reply to a person who asks, “Why should I keep waiting?” is to see their now-sinful mate walk in a right relationship with Jesus Christ. A second reason to hold on is because others are watching. Some of those people will remain in their marriage and trust the Lord to right the wrongs because you did so and set an example for them to follow.
Do you get it? You are in a position to curb divorce amnesia in your church and your family by continuing to trust God to do exactly what He has promised you that He will do: restore your marriage. Many people will remember not only the high cost of divorce but also the joy of marriage restoration because you took a stand.
When you go to church, hold your head high. Be proud of the work that our Lord God is doing in your life and your marriage. Remember also to pray for a mighty harvest of prodigal spouses coming home to the Lord and to praying spouses.
The Lord your God has increased your numbers so that today you are as numerous as the stars in the sky. May the Lord, the God of your ancestors, increase you a thousand times and bless you as he has promised! Deuteronomy 1:10-11
Because He lives,