Charlyne Cares

Are you standing for the restoration of your marriage? A daily devotional that will offer encouragement from God’s Word as you stand for the restoration of your marriage.

Do You Know and Do the Will of God?

Show me your ways, O LORD, teach me your paths; guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long. Psalm 25:4-5

Are you willing to learn to “know” and then “do” the will of God for your life and marriage? I think the most common question we receive in our ministry is, “How do I know God’s will for my marriage?”

We receive email and letters that start out negative regarding all their marriage circumstances, but end up saying, “I wish I knew what God wants me to do,” or “I know God wants me to stand, but it is too hard, so I am getting on with my life.” That dear stander believes that they will be happy or have peace going against God’s will for their life and marriage. They think God will disappear and leave them alone. Well, God will never leave you alone or forsake you or your husband or wife! That dear stander may go down many wrong roads that may end in failure because they are not doing God’s will.

What I described above may sound like your husband’s or wife’s lifestyle right now. They are not doing God’s will. Yes, your spouse will reap what they sow if they continue sowing bad seed, living in sin and sexual immorality. That is why your Lord God is knocking at your heart’s door to pray for them.

But because of your stubbornness and your unrepentant heart, you are storing up wrath against yourself for the day of God’s wrath, when his righteous judgment will be revealed. Romans 2:5

You may have walked away from the Lord as a young adult, or you may have never known the Lord before you got married. Now the Lord has opened your eyes, you have repented, and are currently serving the Lord and seeking His will and way. God wants you to pray for your spouse’s salvation. Two scriptures may help you:

For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is they are holy. 1 Corinthians 7:14

Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 1 Peter 3:1-2

Satan will use unforgiveness or anger to destroy your marriage. Have you learned to forgive your spouse and others? The Lord wants us to love our enemies which is “knowing and doing” the will of God.

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.” Matthew 18:21-22

“You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” Matthew 5:43-46, 48

I know that before our divorce became final, Bob was crying and begging for me to forgive him one more time. However, I had allowed my heart to become so hardened. I was so angry and bitter. I can honestly admit now that the Holy Spirit was telling me to forgive him and give him another chance. I would not surrender to doing God’s perfect will. Instead, I allowed the enemy to bring into our marriage more sinfulness and a lot of pain and suffering for my children, myself and Bob.

Do you know how many marriages are going to divorce court every week because of anger, unforgiveness or pride? May God help every couple to realize the dire consequences of giving in to the destruction of their marriage by divorce. How many marriages could be restored this week if both husbands and wives would give up wanting their selfish ways in their marriage and put the Lord first in their lives?

Be very careful, then, how you live-not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. Ephesians 5:15-17

God bless,


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