Restored and Redeemed

Has your marriage been restored? Restored & Redeemed is a devotional for those in a restored marriage.

Don’t Be Afraid to Dream Together

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Thank you for your financial support of Rejoice Marriage Ministries throughout the year. We are especially grateful for the contributions received during December, which allows us to finish the year on budget and plan for 2022.

As you consider year-end gifts, we would ask you to prayerfully consider supporting the work of Rejoice Marriage Ministries financially. God can take your gift and multiply it for His glory.

Thank you for helping us work to see divorce eradicated. There is hope for a hurting or dead marriage! Will you help us?


Your gift must be postmarked by December 31, 2021 to be credited in calendar year 2021 for tax purposes.


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Rejoice Marriage Ministries
PO Box 10548
Pompano Beach, FL 33061

The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps. Proverbs 16:9 

The week between Christmas and New Year’s Day is always unique. Many people take time off of work in the hopes of extending the holidays. The stores are usually full of people returning gifts. For others, this week is training camp for the new year.

Some people love to use this week to plan, dream, and organize. That is me! I get excited at the thought of a new calendar. It is like a blank slate ready for an opportunity. Something about this time of year makes me crave organization and a plan.

Let’s be honest. While this time of year lends itself to new things, plans, and dreams, I fully realize that about one and a half days into the new year, I will be hit with 14 unplanned emergencies that attempt to rob me of my new year’s joy. Did I ever tell you about the time our washing machine overflowed? Twice. In the same week. Talk about a joy-sucker! We emptied our garage onto the front yard, got everything dried out, and put it all away only to have the same thing happen two days later. I started searching my garage for a hidden camera because I was sure this had to be a joke.

Life is full of reality, like overflowing washing machines. We can plan and prepare and dream, but things are going to happen that weren’t planned, and we are going to have to figure out if they are going to derail us or if we can adapt and with our whole heart say, “Lord, You are in control, and I trust You in this.”

You may be like my husband and not overly moved at the thought of planning and dreaming. He is a realist, and I am the dreamer. I am sure God will split the sea right in front of my eyes, and He wants to make a plan to get through the sea if it doesn’t split. Neither one of us are right. We just have two different ways of thinking about planning.

I want to challenge you to dream and plan with your spouse. It may be something that excites you, or maybe you read that and think, “That’s ridiculous. I’m not doing it.” I want you to try! Praying and talking with your spouse about the future opens up a beautiful conversation that you otherwise may never have. God loves you so much! He wants to see you not just existing but purposefully living a life that brings Him honor and glory.

What are some personal goals for your family? How do you want to serve others in 2022? Do you have giving desires that you can lay out? Is there someplace you want to travel? Is 2022 the year you quit your job and start your own business?

Don’t be afraid to dream together. God has done something so beautiful in your marriage by restoring your family. You know that He has unique plans for you.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11

Start preparing days ahead of your planning date by praying. Ask the Lord to show you areas where He wants to stretch you. Ask the Lord to give you ears that will listen to what your spouse shares without being critical.

Can you imagine the discussion that happened when Noah and his wife sat down to talk about their dreams and plans? “God told me to build an ark for the coming flood.” In Genesis chapter 6, we see the instructions being laid out. I’m sure there was doubt and confusion at what the Lord was asking this family to do. But God! Just as He guided Noah’s family, He will guide yours in His plans.

Last year, my husband and I went out on a special date night to talk about some of our dreams, goals, and plans for the upcoming year. We tried to make it a time where we could be honest about the past and the future.

Take a notebook with you and write down your answers. My husband and I each took turns writing our answers out and then we shared them so we could talk about them in detail. The Lord may reveal areas where He wants to use your family that you never considered through this time together.

If you can’t see where you have been, you can’t clearly see where you are going. It is essential to look back and seek the Lord on what needs to change. We have friends who had a similar planning session as they were reaching retirement age. They each had just assumed they would retire and live in the same house, watching their kids and grandchildren grow. Once they finished their conversation, it was evident that the Lord was calling them to move to another country and become missionaries. They are now spending their “retirement” serving others and sharing Christ.

Here are some questions to get you started:

1. What is something you learned from last year?

2. What were your biggest disappointments from last year?

3. What is a dream or desire that has been on the forefront of your mind?

4. What goals do you have for the new year in these areas?

a) Personal time with God
b) Giving
c) Sharing Christ with others
d) Marriage
e) Family
f) Career

6. How can we encourage one another throughout the year?

What other questions would you add to this list? C comment below this devotional to share any other tips you would add.

God bless,

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