A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22
Sometimes we can get so caught up in the daily routine of life that we forget to have some fun. Day after day, week after week, we repeat the same patterns. Work, go to church, watch the kid’s sports games, buy groceries, repeat. While there may be some comfort in predictability, getting caught in a routine and forgetting to enjoy your marriage can lead to dissatisfaction.
You need to be intentional about having fun in your marriage! Talk to your spouse and find out how you can be more fun or spontaneous.
Make a plan-
Failure to plan will definitely result in no plan. Take turns planning a date night. Be intentional about doing something fun and unique. You can plan a fun date night on any budget. Start a list in your phone of fun outings you want to take with your spouse. Find fresh ways to add romance and fun to your marriage.
Laugh together –
Are you the fun spouse or the serious spouse? Laughter is good for the soul. The Mayo Clinic tells us that there are both short- and long-term benefits to laughter.1 Benefits like soothing tension, stimulating organs, and improving your immune system among other things. You may not want to hit up a cycle class together, but you can laugh together and do great things for your body and your relationship.
If you are the serious spouse, you need to lighten up a little. I understand the pressure and stress of life, but there is always time for laughter. Ask the Lord to help you find moments to laugh with your spouse. Be lighthearted. Instead of getting upset when something crazy happens, find a way to laugh about it together.
My husband has one pair of shorts that seem to be attracted to doorknobs. Whenever he wears these shorts, chances are you will soon see him hung up on a doorknob. There have been days where frustration was running high, and the doorknob hang-up was difficult for Scott to laugh at. However, it doesn’t usually take too long before he is laughing with us at the unfortunate timing and ability for any doorknob to grab him and take hold.
Be willing to laugh at yourself!
We have already established that life is hard. We are paying more for gas, housing, electricity and food while making the same amount of money. That adds stress to a family. You may be walking through illness or another major life change. Be intentional about stepping away from the hard season and dream with your spouse. The season you are in will pass. The pain will ease, and life will look bright again. Dream about those days today.
Visit a favorite coffee shop or go for a walk and make a list of things you want to do, shows you want to see or places you want to visit. If you aren’t the dreamer in your relationship, be open to see the future. It doesn’t cost any money to dream! I sent my husband a text just the other day with a video I found online of a beautiful spot in Switzerland. We added that to our dream list.
Reignite the laughter and joy in your marriage and start enjoying each other again.
“He will yet fill your mouth with laughter and your lips with shouts of joy.” Job 8:21