Restored and Redeemed

Has your marriage been restored? Restored & Redeemed is a devotional for those in a restored marriage.

Don’t Go Back to the Way It Used to Be

Then he told them many things in parables, saying: “A farmer went out to sow his seed.  As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up. Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly, because the soil was shallow.  But when the sun came up, the plants were scorched, and they withered because they had no root.  Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants.  Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a crop—a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown. Whoever has ears, let them hear.” Matthew 13:3-9

Marriage restoration is a journey and not a destination. Many people don’t understand that. When my parents’ marriage was restored, my mom always said, “I will never stop standing and fighting for my marriage.” She understood that she didn’t prioritize praying for her marriage before the divorce. She came to realize how she took many things for granted.

I read an email that sounded very familiar. It said something like, “Our marriage was restored ten years ago. My husband is considering leaving again.”

That message breaks my heart. I know that couple knows the heartache they will walk through if one of them decides to leave home. That couple knows the pain it will cause their children, family members, and friends.

You know that feeling as well.

You have been there. Standing and fighting for your marriage and pleading with God that He would turn your wayward spouse’s eyes towards home.

You’ve been there before. Don’t go back.

It is very easy to slip back into old habits. It is easy to be a spouse with a critical spirit instead of finding ways to praise and encourage your spouse. It is easy to let days and weeks slip by without meaningful investment being made in your relationship.

Don’t go back there.

The parable of the sower is talking about hardened hearts that can’t hear the Gospel because of the bad soil. That same soil can be hardened to a spouse. Do you see your spouse’s heart becoming hardened? Is yours?

Don’t go back.

Fight for your marriage. Fight for your healing. Continue to pray that the Lord will change you and your spouse. Pray that you both would become a couple who wants to show the world what God’s healing power can accomplish.

Don’t ever get so complacent in your restored marriage that you stop praying for it. Find a time each week to sit down together for 10 minutes and review the prior week. What worked? What didn’t? Where does your spouse need prayer? How can you be a better helpmate to your spouse in the coming week? Be willing to give honest answers and be ready to receive your spouse’s honest answers without becoming defensive.

Ask the Lord to soften the soil of your heart and give you a willingness to never stop contending for your marriage.

Your family is worth it!

God bless,


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1 month ago

Great advice Lori! Thank you!

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