Mark 10 Nine

Are you happily married and looking for tips on maintaining a God-honoring marriage? This weekly devotional will give you encouragement for your marriage.

Don’t Play Games in Marriage

Our family loves to play games. It doesn’t matter if it is a board game or a card game; we love them all.  One of our new favorites is a game called Happy Salmon. If you have never heard of it, you’ll have to look it up. Let’s just say it consists of people standing around a table shouting words at one another to gain the attention of a competitor who may have a matching card. It is hilarious!

While games with the family are fun, playing games in marriage can be dangerous. The picture of a family shouting and laughing while playing a game is replaced with a couple shouting and fighting for attention in a marriage. Playing games in marriage can erode the foundations that a healthy marriage should stand on.

One game played in marriage is the silent treatment. This tactic involves withholding communication or even emotional engagement to express frustration. While one spouse may feel temporary relief, silence breeds resentment and creates more problems.

Another common game is the blame game. Instead of taking responsibility for their actions or constructively addressing issues, couples engage in a cycle of shifting blame on each other. This destructive behavior leads to a breakdown in authentic communication and trust.

Financial games can also cause strife in a marriage. Whether it is overspending, hiding purchases, or using money as a tool for manipulation, financial conflicts can strain a relationship.

Each of these games shares a common thread – they undermine the core principles of a marriage: trust, communication, mutual respect, and unconditional love. Here are some strategies a couple could implement to steer clear of destructive game-playing in your relationship:

    1. Open Communication – Each partner in your marriage should feel like they have a safe place to communicate openly and honestly. Your goal should be that your spouse feels safe to express their thoughts, feelings, and concerns without fear of judgment or repercussions. If you need help in this area, one tip is to set aside a time each week to sit down and have honest conversations. Go into that discussion knowing you may hear challenging things, but your spouse’s goal is not to tear you down but to do the hard work required to build a healthy marriage.
    1. Practice Empathy – Become a good listener to your spouse’s perspective. Instead of listening to judge or defend, listen so you can seek to understand their feelings.
    1. Address Issues Immediately – Don’t allow grievances to go unresolved—address conflicts as soon as possible and respectfully. Minor issues can escalate when left to grow on their own. Always remember that your spouse is not trying to escalate a problem but instead seeking to find peace.
    1. Continuously Invest in Your Marriage – Maintaining a healthy marriage requires effort from both spouses. Be intentional about the time you dedicate to your relationship. Prioritize quality time together so you can strengthen your emotional intimacy and connection.

By creating a foundation of healthy communication and understanding, the only games you will play in your marriage are the fun ones!

God bless,


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1 month ago

Thank you Lori! Great advice here.

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