Do you ever wonder if you are called to stand for marriage restoration? In this episode, we discuss how you can honestly know God’s will for your marriage and stand.
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Do you ever wonder if you are called to stand for marriage restoration? In this episode, we discuss how you can honestly know God’s will for your marriage and stand.
© 2023 Rejoice Marriage Ministries
This teaching is Charlyne’s introduction to “How To Stand & Fight For Your Marriage!” Charlyne’s goal is to teach you, a stander, or someone you know with marriage problems, the path to marriage restoration that she has learned over the past twenty-five years.
I would love to hear a testimony from someone who
remarried and realized they needed to leave that and return
to their spouse. In the natural my spouse has zero reason to
return to me. He has all the things he valued; money, classic cars , a nice
new home and regular vacations abroad that he would not have had with me b
because those were his life focuses not mine. Despite his profession of faith, he wasn’t
too serious about actual obdience and at the time neither was I. A combination of trauma and rebellion/mistrust in my heart and life caused alot of wild reactions in me and inappropriate behaviours. He had similar issues. I think part of the problem too was that both of us were probably false converts and didn’t realize because the church we were part of would invite people to raise their hand during an altar call and then assure people thy were saved if they really meant it without mentioning the need for repentance from sin and obedience, what following Christ was about except in the briefest watered down way. Suffice to say he is remarried. I was remarried but eventually concluded I was living selfish fantasy that i wanted to be right but that wasn’t and that my preferred life of ” what I should have had” was built on the heartbreak of my daughter and first husband whom I had utterly despised. So you can be that I would really like to hear a story like mine where God turned things around.
Thanks for sharing what you are facing. Here is one testimony that will encourage you. Ryan was remarried and had no intention of returning home to his wife and daughter. This is a video of their remarriage ceremony where they share a testimony in the middle of the ceremony of God’s amazing work in their marriage. https://rejoiceministries.org/a-restored-marriage/ God sees things we don’t see. Don’t worry about the “happy life” it seems your spouse is living. Trust the Lord and His timing. Many prodigals have shared their life looked perfect from the outside, but they were crumbling on the inside. We are praying for your family.
Thank you Lori for this podcast & the prayer of hope! I will be printing it out & praying it for my husband & our marriage.
We are praying with you, Rebecca.
Is rejection from an ex-husband God’s way of redirecting His steps and His will.
I’m sorry about the rejection you are facing. Keep in mind that man is rejecting you, not God. He created marriage and is for it. (Genesis 2:23-24, Mark 10:9, 1 Corinthians 7) It is not uncommon for a prodigal to reject the person praying and standing for marriage restoration. In Bob’s book, The Prodigal’s Perspective, he shares his journey and how despite his words of rejection to Charlyne, he was actually battling thoughts of her and restoration behind the scenes. Don’t let the words of man become louder than the voice of God. Depend on Him in this season. We are praying for your marriage.
It is God will and God purpose to me to found this ministry and to stand for our marriage . I share this to my mentor as spiritual mother who stand with me and to pray for our marriage .. This is what she said :Wow!Wow!Wow! This was AWESOME!!!!! You should listen to this many times and pray the prayer with
her! This is a PERFECT WORD FROM THE LORD!!!
What a blessing that you found “Rejoice Ministries”!!!! Count this as a HUGE BLESSING!!!
Thank you abundantly to Lori , Charlyne
I honor you as a hero of my faith for our marriage
Thank you! We count it an honor to come alongside you and pray with you for your marriage. God doesn’t make any mistakes. He will use this season for His glory!
Dora B
I have been divorced for ten years. I stood & prayed for the restoration of my marriage for many years. My ex- husband never considered restoring our marriage, mainly due to to my sinful & wrong choices in the past, though I repented and God has been amazing to me as He redeemed & gave me hope in Him to stand strong through His grace all these years.
My ex husband has recently married for the third time. I must confess that after this my hope for my marriage restoration has weakened, though deep in my heart I still desire my marriage to be restored. I don’t pray intentionally for it. I just pray for strength , hope & purpose for my future to serve God & leave a legacy of faith for my kids.
what to do?
Dora B – you are not alone! My prodigal left 14 years ago and we have been divorced for 12 years. He is currently in his 3rd relationship and has had more children. I have felt the same hopelessness as you have, but the Lord continues to encourage me and remind me of the promises He has given me. What are we to do? We are to choose the way of faithfulness (Psalm 119:30), we are to be committed and to trust in Him (Psalm 37:5), and no matter what we face, we don’t leave our post (Ecc. 10:4). Strength and peace to you!
Angie, we wanted to make sure you heard the Fight for Your Marriage episode about children being born while spouses are out of the home. https://rejoiceministries.org/my-spouse-had-a-child-with-the-other-person-now-what-86208/
Thank you Lori for the encouragement
Jesus Christ in us is our hope of glory. Although it is advantageous to hope for a marriage covenant to be restored, it only takes one person to stand for a covenant and walk in obedience before God. Either way, God will have wonderful things in store for you, as you stand for your covenant and keep your vow before God. If circumstances come about where you’re departed, spouse comes to their senses, and returns to the Lord and to you. covenant and keep your vow before God. If circumstances come about where you’re departed, spouse comes to their senses and returns to the Lord and to you it’s terrific. That’s that it is not the end of the world to continue walking faithfully before the Lord God will provide all your needs. I stood and I waited. For over five years and then that call finally came in. The wife of my youth and I are back together again now and the Lord has been amazing. Ups and downs but a cord of three strands is not easily broken. Wonderful news on the horizon with adult children getting engaged and other married kids announcing pregnancies I praise the Lord and pinch myself every day.
Shalom to all, I pray for the lines of communication to be open between my husband & I. It seems he’s afraid, I’m not sure but, my husband is not good at communicating (seriously) he has a very hard time trying to express his feelings & words…i think also he might feel afraid of how I might respond to some of the thing’s he’s done (no other women) but betrayal involving his family & actually going through with divorce even though he knows I don’t believe in divorce. I’m just extremely frustrated & I wish he would just text or email me…I’ll be loving. I’m so disappointed, sad & hurt in the lack of…well…NO COMMUNICATION.
Any Godly advice?