Charlyne Cares

Are you standing for the restoration of your marriage? A daily devotional that will offer encouragement from God’s Word as you stand for the restoration of your marriage.

Everything I Have Is Yours

Each week we share guest devotionals. The views expressed below are those of the writer and may not reflect the views of Rejoice Marriage Ministries or the Steinkamps.

Has the Lord placed a devotional on your heart that you would like to share with other standers?

The early morning sun stretches long through the window like the hours before me. I nestle into my chair, coffee in hand, and try so hard to search for hope on the horizon of this new coming day. Like many of you, I’ve memorized and proclaimed: “This is the day the Lord has made; I will rejoice and be glad in it.”

Some days, rejoicing seems the last thing I want to – or can – do. Loneliness. Bitterness and anger creep in to steal joy. Lack of money. A pervasive sense of powerlessness, especially when I look into the faces of my hurting children. It all accumulates like a mountain ready to tumble down, until that morning sun looks like a long finger pointing a curse at me. Another day to try to survive in impossible circumstances.

The human spirit can endure in sickness but a crushed spirit who can bear?  Proverbs 18:14 

How often we have been comforted by Bob’s transparent accounts of the prodigal mind and heart. What a blessing Charlyne’s constant encouragement to trust God to move in our beloved’s life until they “come to their senses.”

This morning, as I once again reflect on the miracle of the prodigal son story, my thoughts drift to the older brother, and I’m struck by how similar his feelings might be to us standers.

While his brother runs off with his portion of the inheritance (half the bank account, his share of the furniture, etc.) to revel in pleasure, he holds down the fort, sweats in the sun and never seems to get a break. I wonder if he ever received messages from the far country of all his brother was enjoying (or seeming to because we know how he ended in the pig pen)? Did he ever spend nights alone wishing he had someone to hold? Did he eat the same plain meal while thinking of the lavish foods his brother tasted? Maybe he even did a bit of his own spying to see if things really were as good as he suspected. Sound familiar?

To me, the story of the prodigal son is really about two brothers – neither of whom trusted their Father to bless them. One responded by greedily taking his portion and running off, and the other becoming so works-focused and bitter he allowed his blessings to pass him by.

While your spouse is running prodigal, can you relate at all to the older brother?

Some of you might complain that you have no choice to work long hours and no time to enjoy life. While it’s true carrying the responsibilities for two is hard, if we have received Christ as our Savior the Holy Spirit will guide us in ways that lighten our load and even make us giddy with joy.

The question is – will we receive?

Some of the saddest words in the Bible are from the Father to the elder brother when he will not come into the party the Father has thrown for the prodigal son after his return. The brother is upset that he has worked all this time and yet the Father has never given him a calf for him and his friends to enjoy. He feels unappreciated, unloved, and angry.

“My son,” the father said, “you are always with me and everything I have is yours.”  Luke 15:31-32 

Reading these words my heart is completely pierced.

Do I celebrate that every day I live in my Father’s house? Do I celebrate all I have been given in the midst of this turmoil? In all the moments I have turned to look over my shoulder to see what my prodigal is up to, have I ever really looked my Heavenly Father full in the face and celebrated this one life He has so faithfully given me? Have I received all He desires for me during this season? Have you?

What are we going to do with this time? In spite of all the trouble our marriage problems have brought, I believe God is calling us to share in His feast. Not just when our prodigal comes home. But now.

“What do you want me to do for you?” Jesus asked him. The blind man said “Rabbi, I want to see.”  Mark 10:51

Oh, Lord! Open our eyes to how You are all around us, in us, with us and all You have given us and want to give us. No more sitting at this window waiting for our prodigals to come home. Can we keep praying for our spouses, keep wearing our wedding rings, keep trusting in the God who redeems and restores dead marriages, and yet fully live in the in-between?

Tonight, I will scrape together a few extra coins for some ice cream to share with my children. We will drive to a high point overlooking our town and marvel as the sun sets and the stars rise, and we will count blessings as numerous as those stars. My son will ask me if we can catch clouds in a jar and I will thank Him for giving me such precious children We will delight and dream, because God is good and we are with Him, and everything He has is ours.

When the Lord restored the fortunes of Zion, We were like those who dreamed. Our mouths were filled with laughter, Our tongues with songs of joy… “The Lord has done great things for us and we are filled with joy.”  Psalm 126:1-3 

One of the “restored fortunes” of a child of God is the ability to see and perceive Him and His goodness all around us. While we continue to pray for the blind eyes of our spouses to be opened, let us also pray for our own eyes to be opened and enjoy Him and all He has given us.

Love and Peace,

Nicole in the United Kingdom

Rejoice Marriage Ministries

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10 days ago

Thank you Nicole. God bless you!

Make us one
One with the Father
One with the Spirit
One with the Son of God
One with our sister
One with our brother
One family by the blood

Make us one
Make us one
Your will be done
Make us one

10 days ago

This is absolutely beautiful! Thank you, Nicole.

10 days ago

Thank you , a blessing!!

10 days ago

Beautiful, true, thoughts!

Abigail Martinez
Abigail Martinez
9 days ago

Gracias Nicole por recordarme que solo debo mirar a Jesús y no ver ña vida de mi esposo pródigo.
Hoy mi corazón se siente desalentado pero Dios me da fuerzas y aliento a través de ti

Ayúdame Jesús te necesito amén!!

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