Each week we share guest devotionals. The views expressed below are those of the writer and may not reflect the views of Rejoice Marriage Ministries or the Steinkamps.
Has the Lord placed a devotional on your heart that you would like to share with other standers?
As he was speaking, the teachers of religious law and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in the act of adultery. They put her in front of the crowd. “Teacher,” they said to Jesus, “this woman was caught in the act of adultery. The law of Moses says to stone her. What do you say?” They were trying to trap him into saying something they could use against him, but Jesus stooped down and wrote in the dust with his finger. They kept demanding an answer, so he stood up again and said, “All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!” Then, he stooped down again and wrote in the dust. When the accusers heard this, they slipped away one by one, beginning with the oldest, until only Jesus was left in the middle of the crowd with the woman. Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?” “No, Lord,” she said. And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.” John 8:3-11 (NLT)
Has your husband been caught in the sin of adultery? Probably yes. Your husband left home because of the OW or left home by saying he doesn’t love you anymore and doesn’t want to continue with you and was later caught in the sin of adultery. What has been your attitude? That of the scribes and Pharisees or that of Jesus? What a tough question!
When the adulterous woman is brought before Jesus several things happen.
The first is that she is immediately condemned for her actions. She is publicly shamed, she is exposed in her own nakedness. The Pharisees and scribes, by mentioning the law of Moses, use their sin to mock and condemn it. Many times, our attitude is like that. Condemnation towards our husbands, public shame by mentioning their sin to the whole world, having an attitude of victims. Complaints, fights, hatred, bad words, blows… and finally lack of forgiveness and justification for abandoning the marriage covenant because of their sin.
But the second is Jesus’ response. It is important to notice not only his words but his attitude. Jesus does not accept the sin of adultery, he does not value it, he is not in favor of it, but His words and attitude towards the situation that this woman is experiencing leave us with a great lesson. Jesus questioned the attitude of condemnation of the Pharisees and will always be against that same attitude of us towards our husbands, Jesus does not pay attention to their complaints or their accusations nor will he pay attention when we arrive with the attitude of victims to look for him. Jesus looks lovingly at this woman, treats her mercifully and does not condemn her. Finally he encourages her to go and sin no more. Only an attitude of love, mercy and forgiveness could make this woman leave her old life and follow Jesus.
What do you want to happen with your spouse? Should he be damned and ashamed? Or be forgiven and transformed by the love of Jesus?
In this process, what the Lord is doing in us is forming us to be more like Him, that today we can be more loving, compassionate and merciful with our covenant husband.
In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. 1 Peter 3:1 (NLT)
Elizabeth in Colombia