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Are you standing for the restoration of your marriage? A daily devotional that will offer encouragement from God’s Word as you stand for the restoration of your marriage.

God’s Delays Are Not His Denials

Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.  Psalm 27:14 

I assume one of the questions that cross your mind often deals with wondering how long it will take for your marriage to be restored. Before I answer that question, may I ask you a question? How long does it take to rebuild a home ravaged by a hurricane? How long does it take to rebuild a home destroyed by a mudslide, fire, or flood? It takes time. Do not allow time to become your enemy.

Every circumstance is different, but we serve the same awesome, mighty God, who is right there with you. God wants to rebuild and restore the disaster and devastation of your marriage for Him to get the glory, honor, and praise. I hope you will make time today to read Ezekiel 36:22 through Ezekiel Chapter 37. Your spouse’s salvation and walk with the Lord are part of your marriage restoration. I hope you are praying more for their relationship with the Lord than you are for restoration.

Waiting is part of the restoration journey and a spiritual Truth throughout the Bible. Each marriage is different, just as we are all different. I do not understand why some people have their marriages restored in a few months, yet others wait years. I know that the Lord’s timing is always perfect, so I trust Him.

Manipulating the situation only leads you on many detour roads. The Lord is waiting for you to surrender your will to Him.

God has a plan and a purpose for your life, but the number one purpose is for you to put Him first and die to your fleshly motives and personal desires. We have to crucify our sinful nature.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”  Jeremiah 29:11-13 

Satan came into your home to steal, kill, and destroy your marriage and every family member (John 10:10). He is still trying to discourage and defeat you with unbelief, doubt, and fear. Your spouse is blinded and deceived right now. God can reignite their love for you and bring romance into your marriage.

Didn’t you marry your spouse for life?

I get so mad at the devil when I hear people doubting that they are to wait on the Lord to restore their marriage. Why? Because the enemy is deceiving them with doublemindedness. Why do Christians believe that their Lord cannot deliver their spouse from the bondage of sin or deliver them from the trap of Satan? Is that not what we are praying for? 

“It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.”  Mark 2:17 

The enemy may hit you with anger, bitterness, doubt, unbelief, jealousy, weariness, and loneliness. How long should you wait for your spouse to come home? How long does the Lord wait for us to go home to Him? Oh, that we would have that unconditional love, compassion, and mercy for our spouses and family members as our Lord does.

Right now, you may have to die to your selfish desires of having a spouse meet your daily physical and emotional needs, but your Lord can meet them instead.

Lord, I wait for you; you will answer, Lord my God.  Psalm 38:15 

Did you marry for a lifetime or only for a season? When you said your marriage vows, did you mean them? Then allow the Lord to use you to serve Him as you wait for your marriage to be restored.

I thank the Lord often that He gave me a second chance when I was disobedient during our marriage separation. I was so angry at Bob and God for allowing Bob to mistreat me. I have to admit I was mad at God when He did not just “zap” Bob out of his sinfulness or that He did not punish him for his sins. Have you had those thoughts also? If you have, stop and repent to the Lord. He understands, and He still loves you.

Waiting on the Lord is not a denial of your marriage being restored or your spouse being saved and filled with the Holy Spirit. Waiting on the Lord is obedience to our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

Delay is God saying, “It is not time yet.” Will you stand in the gap, interceding for your spouse and family?

God’s delays are not God’s denials! 

Yet the Lord longs to be gracious to you; he rises to show you compassion. For the Lord is a God of justice. Blessed are all who wait for him!  Isaiah 30:18

God bless,

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1 month ago

Thank you Charlyne! This is so good and encouraging! I also in the beginning of my stand wanted the Lord to zap my spouse! Father we come into agreement with the good thoughts and plans You have for our marriages. May they be established and the enemy’s plans canceled.

Jesus We make space, we make room
We have come to yield to You

We make space

1 month ago
Reply to  Lalitha

Hi Lalitha! I completely agree with Ginnie. Thank you so much for always taking the time to comment daily with each devotional and sharing links to songs. You sharing God’s words to expand even further on the devotionals is greatly appreciated. Thank you also for your personal devotional. I read it & said…”oh it’s LALITHA!” 😆❤🙌🏽 Thank you RMM for everything & this community you have built. ❤ May God continue to be with all of us standers. Guiding us as we strive to be obedient to Him, discern His voice, and pray for our prodigals…and all covenant marriages around the world. 🙏🏽

1 month ago
Reply to  Crystal

Wow thank you Crystal! So good to hear that!😊

1 month ago

Thank you for your encouraging words daily after the devotion. I honestly think I would put a heart after each one. There is so much that Im praying for that I cannot sum it up. I am praying for you and all hurting marriages. Keep praying God changes things!!! We will see soon and say, ‘God did this..!’ Thank you!!

1 month ago
Reply to  Ginnie

Thank you Ginnie- your words encouraged me! Yes one day we will all say That God did this!

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