Restored and Redeemed

Has your marriage been restored? Restored & Redeemed is a devotional for those in a restored marriage.

Guarding Your Tongue in Marriage

The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life, but the mouth of the wicked conceals violence.  Proverbs 10:11 

The Bible has so much to say about our mouths and how powerful our words are. It is not uncommon to hear the basis of people’s marriage problems stemming from arguments that happen because of things that are said.

When you think back to the time in your marriage when you started having problems, can you recall an area where your words negatively impacted your relationship? Do you think it contributed to the breakdown in your marriage?

I want to share some scriptures that will remind you how powerful your words are. Instead of answering your spouse with a short, harsh tone, what would change in your relationship if your words were sweet and kind? Your relationship may not be filled with unkind words but rather with silence. That is a form of communication that can be equally destructive.

If you realize that the communication in your marriage is unhealthy, make today the first day of a new start. I know that with a restored marriage, there are many new changes in your relationship. It may feel awkward at first to change the way you communicate. Your spouse may even question things. When you are willing to make changes in shortcomings, you can see healing and growth happen in your relationship.

How could your marriage look different if you focused on changing your words?

For, “Whoever would love life and see good days must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech.  1 Peter 3:10 

Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.  Colossians 4:6 

The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.  Proverbs 15:4 

Set a guard over my mouth, Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips.  Psalms 141:3 

The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment.  Proverbs 12:18-19 

My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.  James 1:19 

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.  Ephesians 4:29

The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil.  Proverbs 15:28 

Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity.  Proverbs 21:23 

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.  Romans 12:18

God bless,


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