“This is what the Sovereign Lord says: On the day I cleanse you from all your sins, I will resettle your towns, and the ruins will be rebuilt. The desolate land will be cultivated instead of lying desolate in the sight of all who pass through it. They will say, “This land that was laid waste has become like the Garden of Eden; the cities that were lying in ruins, desolate and destroyed, are not fortified and inhabited.” Then the nations around you that remain will know that I the Lord have rebuilt what was destroyed and have replanted what was desolate. I the Lord have spoken, and I will do it.'” Ezekiel 36:33-36
After your spouse returns home, it can be easy to pay too much attention to each other and overlook the children. I found it important to continue special times with our children that had been developed while Bob was away.
Recall those events your family enjoyed together before marital strife overtook your home. It is possible to plan inexpensive family activities that allow everyone to participate. Having fun together, once again, will set the stage for the spiritual growth that your restored marriage needs. It’s easier for a prodigal to join with the rest of the family for bedtime devotions after he’s had fun with them during the evening.
One of our three children really enjoyed being tucked in bed by mom. Bedtime included reading scripture, prayer time, and a back rub. At that special time, our child shared some fears and concerns.
Although that true illustration sounds so Ozzie and Harriet, I was far from being a super mom during my stand. Bob and I were less than super parents when he returned home. The goodness is that the Lord can take our flawed efforts at parenting, add a touch from heaven and have everything turn our right.
During these days of restoration, allow your children to grow in the Lord and adjust to a renewed family. Go slow. Overlook a lot of what is said in anger, or out of past hurts. Time is a great friend to children in marriage restoration. The Lord is the perfect healer of families. Believe the Lord for your children what He promises us in Isaiah 61, He will heal the brokenhearted and give them a garment of praise instead of despair.
Your spouse has turned back to the family. Now your children will be turning back to you and your mate to again see you as one flesh. A big assignment? Yes, but it can be accomplished with God’s help.