Mark 10 Nine

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How Big Is Your Problem?

Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.” Luke 16:10

I stood in the garage, asking our mechanic when we would get our car back. It had been almost 30 days since we first dropped it off for what seemed like a couple of straightforward repairs. When we tried to pick the car up, it shook like an earthquake was happening. There was a new problem. My husband or I would call for a status update day after day. “Will the car be ready this afternoon?” Day after day, we were told the part they were putting in broke, or they didn’t have the right tool.

It felt like we would never have our car out of the shop. Impatience grew into annoyance which grew into anger. The mechanic would call to tell us about the struggles of that day and give yet another reason why the car wasn’t ready to pick up.

Eventually, the car was towed to the dealer so they could help. I hoped we could get our car back within a few days. Thirty minutes after dropping the car off, I got the call that it was ready. Shocked, I asked how it was fixed so quickly. I was informed that the problem was that one screw loosened when the minor repair was done 30 days ago. This one overlooked screw from the original repair made the car shake and rattle so severely that you couldn’t even drive it.

“That’s it? One little piece? It just needed to be tightened?” He could hear the confusion in my voice. I was sure it would take a team to solve our car repair.

I was reminded of how often we think there is a massive problem in life that turns out to be something minor. I could think of many instances where I felt abandoned by God. I was sure the mountain I was facing would be the end of me. Eventually, I realized that the mountain was actually a molehill, often due to my own doing.

If you are drawing breath, I am sure you have faced an enormous problem. But what about those not-so-big problems that we snowball on our own? Those times where we have allowed our minds or our inexperience to magnify a situation so it seems impossible, yet in reality, all that is needed is a slight tightening, just like that screw on my car.

We can have a small problem in our marriages and never deal with it. An unkind word, unresolved conflict, hurt feelings, the list goes on. Eventually, it develops into a big issue, sometimes even one that leads to separation or divorce.

Have you ever had an unresolved conflict with your spouse? It can turn into a battle where each spouse refuses to see the real problem or admit wrongdoing. Someone has to cave. Someone has to be the one to say, “I’m sorry.”

Are you holding onto your right to be angry?

Are you holding onto your justice because you feel cheated at the time that has been lost because of decisions another person made?

God is the one who is full of justice and mercy. We can trust Him to deal with the things that have happened. You don’t need to be the scorekeeper.

You see, we could have probably come up with a temporary fix for the car ourselves. But pretty soon, the more significant problem would be evident. Don’t manipulate a quick fix. Go to the Lord for that permanent solution. Be willing to be part of that solution.

Examine your life today. Is there an area where you need to stop being offended and offer grace? Even if it feels like undeserved grace.

Is there something you need to seek forgiveness from your spouse for?

We can trust God! We can trust His timetable and what He wants to teach us in the waiting.

Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. Do not put out the Spirit’s fire, do not treat prophecies with contempt. Test everything. Hold on to the good. Avoid every kind of evil. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-22

God bless,


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