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Men, has the Lord placed a devotional on your heart that you would like to share with other men that are standing? We would love to hear from you.
What do you see from your perspective? Through this journey of standing and fighting for your marriage, it is very easy to get lost looking at the circumstances through the eyes of the world. When we do this, we take our eyes off our Creator and lose hope.
I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in his holy people, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. Ephesians 1:18-19
This journey is more about God’s desires in you than your desires for a restored marriage. You will never be who you need to be for your wife and children, until you are where God desires you to be. Without God as the center, the foundation, your relationship with your wife and your marriage will never be what God intended.
Through this journey, ask God to open your eyes to see your circumstance through His eyes, to see your wife through His eyes, to see your children through His eyes. When your sight changes, you will better be able to see God’s amazing grace around you. The way you see your circumstances and your wife changes. When I take my eyes off of God, I see very selfishly. I miss out on seeing all the blessings that God has for me, I have a very narrow view.
I recently read a story in the national news. I saw something very different in the news story than what was being reported on. The story was titled, “Massachusetts fisherman reels in purse stolen 18 years ago,” published June 8, 2017. The story goes on to say that a man fishing catches a purse. When he reels it in, he realizes that he went to school with the woman who owned the purse. They had graduated together back in 1985. Inside the purse were all her credit cards and even her wedding bands. The fisherman got in contact with the woman through Facebook.
The story’s focus was on this man finding a purse that was stolen 18 years earlier. But there was one key thing that caught my attention. The day the fisherman reeled in the purse, the woman had gotten remarried to her husband from 1990. What an amazing story. Not only was her marriage restored, but her wedding bands from that marriage were found in the purse on the very same day. Not only did God restore her marriage, but He returned all that was stolen, to include her wedding bands. Now, the remarriage and the return of the original wedding bands were not the focus of the story, just a side note. But for someone whose perspective has changed, and eyes have been opened through a growing relationship with God, this secular news story gives me hope. Interestingly, her last comment in the story was, “This was better than winning the lottery.”
Whether you have been standing for a long period of time for your covenant wife, or seeking God’s desires for you at this time, know that as you draw near to God, your eyes will be opened more and more to see life through His eyes. This should be our desire and prayer. Lord, open my eyes that I may see You, open my ears that I may hear You. Open my eyes that I may see my wife through Your eyes, open my ears that I may hear the heart of my wife with Your ears. Let me see my children through Your eyes; let me see this world from Your perspective Father. The more I see my wife, the more I grow in love with her.
Then will the eyes of the blind be opened and the ears of the deaf unstopped. Isaiah 35:5
Also, our prayers should be that our wives are given new sight to see from God’s perspective, so they might see God’s purpose and design for their lives.
“to open their eyes and turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan to God, so that they may receive forgiveness of sins and a place among those who are sanctified by faith in me.” Acts 26:18
This journey through life, our marriages and our stand for God’s best in our marriage, is not about us. It is about God and His desires, His glory, so that hearts will be reconciled to Him. It is when we align our desires with God’s desires that He can begin a work in us, through us, and we can see differently. God gives us so many more blessings than just a restored marriage, but if all we are looking for is a restored marriage, we will miss out on so much. Our marriages will never function, grow or be blessed unless we are in step with God’s desire for us.
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” Matthew 6:33
I am blessed to stand for my covenant bride, a truly amazing woman, until death parts us.
David in Texas
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