Today’s devotional is written by Lori Steinkamp Lassen. She is our only daughter, who has been married to her husband, Scott for 26 years. Lori is the mother of four children, and has worked with the ministry for many years. May her devotional deepen your spiritual walk with the Lord. – Charlyne
Each day we hear from people from every corner of the world facing a crisis in their marriage. Included in the many we hear from are an elite group of people, parents who are standing and praying for marriage restoration in their child’s marriage.
Some of those in this elite group of standers are praying for salvation for their child and marriage restoration. Others are praying with a child standing and fighting for their marriage to be restored. Other parents are standing for the marriage of their child alone or you may be praying with your son or daughter-in-law for marriage restoration.
My husband and I have four children. Our life is loud and busy! When our children were infants, my husband and I stood before our church and dedicated our children back to the Lord. They are ultimately His. We are entrusted with them for a short time to instruct them and lead them to Jesus.
“I prayed for this child, and the Lord has granted me what I asked of him. So now I give him to the Lord. For his whole life he will be given over to the Lord.” And he worshiped the Lord there. 1 Samuel 1:27-28
In the Bible, Hannah understood that her son, Samuel, was on loan from God. She found happiness in dedicating Samuel to the service of the Lord.
Right now, you may realize that you have never turned your child’s life over to the Lord. You can do that today. Even if your children are adults, make that statement, Lord, I trust You with my children. Lord, may Your will be done in their life and marriage. Every day they are on earth with me is a gift. May I submit control to Your will in their lives. In Jesus’ Name, I pray. Amen.
When my children hurt, I hurt for them. Many of you know our youngest, Ashley, has been through her fair share of medical procedures. Each time she is in the hospital preparing for an uncomfortable procedure, I pray that I could take the pain from her. When one of my older kids is crushed by a friend’s hurtful words, I wish that I could take that hurt.
The day your child announced their marriage problems, many of you probably went into the role you played when your child was young, trying anything to protect them from the hurt and pain associated with marriage problems.
Don’t forget that any trial we are going through has passed through the hand of Jesus.
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us. Romans 5:3-5
If your children are unsaved, this is a fantastic opportunity to show them the power of the Lord. Your adult children are not too old to listen to instructions from their parents. Tell them what you are doing. Explain God’s view on marriage (Genesis 2:18, Malachi 2:13-16, Matthew 19:3-9, 1 Corinthians 7, Colossians 3:18-19, 1 Peter 3:1-4, 1 Peter 3:7). This may be the trial that brings them to their need of a Savior.
If your child is a believer, what better prayer partner than their parents. As with any prayer partner, let me caution you that the details don’t matter. You would not want your child to share so many details regarding the failure of their marriage that you begin to doubt God’s power to change your son or daughter-in-law and turn their life around. You would not want to put yourself in a position to allow Satan to creep in and whisper in your ear, “They deserve better.”
Here are some things that you can pray for your children:
Wisdom – For the Lord gives wisdom, and from his mouth come knowledge and understanding. Proverbs 2:6
Self-Control –My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19-20
Greed – Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5
We have a spot on our website that allows you to create personalized scripture that you can pray. Click here to create your personalized list. This is a great way to make scriptures personal.
You are doing something extraordinary for your children and generations to come! Our prayer is that the Lord will use you and your boldness to stand for marriage restoration to bless your entire family.