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Are you standing for the restoration of your marriage? A daily devotional that will offer encouragement from God’s Word as you stand for the restoration of your marriage.

Is My Marriage Hopeless?

But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.  2 Peter 3:8-9 

Do you feel your marriage is hopeless? I want to assure you that God is bigger than those problems regardless of what you are facing. It doesn’t matter if your spouse is addicted to alcohol, drugs, adultery, pornography, or even deals with anger issues; nothing is too hard for your Lord to transform! Your marriage is not hopeless!

God cares about sinners and His prodigal children who are running from God. My question to everyone facing trials is: “How big is your God?”

We could tell you about husbands and wives who never planned on restoring their marriage, but after their divorce, the Lord started working on one or both of their lives, and they began to think about marriage restoration. I often wonder, who was praying for these couples’ marriages?

Never give up on the power of God and what He can do in your marriage. Time is not your enemy. It is worth waiting for your beloved spouse to be touched and their heart transformed by the Lord Jesus Christ. 

“‘This is what the Sovereign Lord says: On the day I cleanse you from all your sins, I will resettle your towns, and the ruins will be rebuilt. The desolate land will be cultivated instead of lying desolate in the sight of all who pass through it. They will say, “This land that was laid waste has become like the garden of Eden; the cities that were lying in ruins, desolate and destroyed, are now fortified and inhabited.” Then the nations around you that remain will know that I the Lord have rebuilt what was destroyed and have replanted what was desolate. I the Lord have spoken, and I will do it.'” Ezekiel 36:33-36 

Have you asked God to show you His will and plan for your marriage? You need to seek the Lord with all your heart. Ask Him questions and remember to write them down. Then wait for the Lord’s answer.

Ask the Lord to speak to you through His Word. Wait on His timing, and be patient. 

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” Jeremiah 29:11-13 

Are you going through a spiritual wilderness? There are times in your spiritual journey when you experience a period of silence. Please make sure that the Lord’s silence is not due to sin in your life that may be blocking answers to your prayers. Ask the Lord to examine your heart and confess any sins He reveals. The Lord wants to have a personal relationship with you. Are you spending time reading the Bible and praying daily? Be consistent and faithful, and you will hear from Him again.

Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.  Psalm 139:23-24 

I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.  Psalm 119:11 

God’s timing may not always be pleasing to us. We are impatient people. We live in an instant society. Since my standing and growing in the Lord, I have learned that God’s timing is perfect! We often complain and give up on waiting for God’s perfect gift or promise because we are too impatient. God’s timing is perfect. It never comes early or late!

Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.  Galatians 6:9 

Who are you listening to – the Lord or the enemy? Is the enemy attacking your mind? The enemy may be trying to convince you that your marriage and the circumstances you are facing are hopeless. The enemy wants you to give up on your marriage and to give up on your husband or wife. Stop! What is God asking and telling you to do? That is the secret to understanding the Lord’s will in your life. God does speak to us so many times, but often we do not hear His voice of direction because we are too busy. Be still before the Lord and listen for His soft voice. What is that small, inner voice saying to you?

Nothing is hopeless when you have God on your side. We need to believe in His mighty power! You need to believe and know that your God can rebuild, restore, reconcile, and resurrect your dead marriage. Now, will you put all your hope in your Lord Jesus Christ?

…but those who hope in the Lord will inherit the land.  Psalm 37:9

God bless,

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1 month ago

Thank you Charlyne! Father with You there is always hope. Thank You Jesus for the good plans You have for us. We believe in our marriages being restored as You are the God of miracles


I believe in You, I believe in You
You’re the God of miracles

1 month ago
Reply to  Lalitha

I would love to be able to connect with you. This is so hard for me. I always see your comments & your faith & it encourages me. I feel like the Lord has given me so many confirmations, but then when I talk to others or share with others they say I could be misinterpreting because I want it so bad…then it causes me to doubt & get discouraged…it is nice there is a community for us all standers & it would be nice if we could connect.

1 month ago

Charlene, thank you for today’s devotion. Psalm 139:23-24 reminds me that I still have issues I need God’s help with before my marriage can be fully restored.

1 month ago

I am struggling with the thought & belief that God is withholding my marriage from me. Knowing He is God & nothing is too hard for Him as He has reminded me…but I am not seeing anything happen. My husband is telling me he is proud of me for my transformation& thinks what I am doing to work on myself is awesome…but he is making the best decision for “himself” he even said his decision is strong as concrete…I am confused because God has given me confirmation after confirmation- I have written out 20 plus…so I feel like would God do that?! Would He show me something if it weren’t going to happen? & the feeling of Him withholding it from me when I cry out to Him everyday! & He confirms He hears me…I just don’t see my circumstances changing…it is hard to keep holding on & hoping…right now my husband & I are not talking & he is acting like he is moving on. My heart is broken. He is saved. He is a believer…he just is going his own way…

Dawn Horton
Dawn Horton
1 month ago
Reply to  Makenzie

Makenzie, I’ve found that holding on to those affirmations can carry you through those extra rough days. When it comes down to it, you and your husband will both stand before God one day and he will be accountable for his choices, and you for yours. This reality helped me to not be hurt as much by the decisions my husband is making. Try not to let his words affect your heart. The enemy has blinded him right now and all we can do is pray in that spiritual battle! We vowed to do so when we said “til death” right? I know personally I forgot that praying for him was part of those vows! Now, I get to focus on getting closer to my Jesus, and pray for the day that my “other half” wants to do that as well! When they come home, we’re going to need that relationship with God to be super strong. Just remember, “He IS faithful!” 1 Thessalonians 5:24 (ESV)
He who calls you is faithful; he will surely do it.

1 month ago
Reply to  Dawn Horton

Dawn thank you for responding. I get discouraged when I share my confirmations with others & they remind me how my husband has free will & none of my confirmations are promises from God…so it causes me to doubt & get discouraged…I pray & pray & pray & I call prayer lines, I reach out to churches…I probably have hundreds or more praying…so I get discouraged when I don’t see anything changing or happening with all this prayer. All this intercession…the worst part of all this too is how alone I am without my husband…how he seems fine & happy & I am just suffering in loneliness & hurt…waiting for God to move. & hearing other people tell me God won’t bring my husband back until I am completely dependent & satisfied in Him alone…well I am hurting, lonely, discouraged.. of course God knows this!

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