Mark 10 Nine

Are you happily married and looking for tips on maintaining a God-honoring marriage? This weekly devotional will give you encouragement for your marriage.

It’s Time to Laugh

A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22 

Did you know there are actually health benefits to laughter? According to the Mayo Clinic, laughter stimulates our organs, cools down our stress response, and improves our immune system, among other things. With those health benefits, why do we need gyms? We just need a good belly laugh.

Marriage can get so serious. Some couples say they didn’t realize how serious things had become before it was too late. When we were dating, my husband and I had no significant responsibilities as a couple. Every day was filled with carefree chats about the future and how great life was.

Once we were married, we had more serious matters to deal with. Who is going to pay the bills? When do we want to start a family? Who is responsible for the household chores? Then we added kids to the mix. There were times when it felt like our carefree lives turned into two people managing a household like a business—coordinating drop-offs and pick-ups, homework, and making lunches.

Do you enjoy laughter? Some people are just more serious, and that is okay. But it is still important to laugh and be lighthearted. Some days it may feel forced, but I want to challenge you to add more laughter to your marriage.

Being lighthearted means you need to be willing to laugh at yourself. We live in a world that is so offended. Instead of being offended, find the humor in things. Just today, my husband was in the kitchen trying to swallow a pill. One of the kids was on the way out for work, and he yelled, “Goodbye” from the door. When he didn’t get a response from dad, he just kept repeating himself, being silly. Mid-swallow of the pill, my husband tried to say bye and ended up in a coughing fit. We were laughing hysterically.

Scott could have gotten offended that we laughed at him and stormed off. Instead, he realized how comical the situation was and enjoyed a giggle with us (once his coughing died down). Everyone walked out the door for work with a massive smile on their face.

I am not suggesting you burst into laughter the next time someone near you chokes, but be on the lookout for situations that you can laugh at instead of being so serious and offended.

Did that new recipe you made for dinner taste like dirt? Don’t get offended when the family refuses to eat it, instead laugh at the situation…and then order a pizza.

Find ways to have fun in your marriage.

You may feel like things are too far gone to bring back the fun. Try it! Your spouse may fall back in love with the new lighthearted person you are becoming. Has physical intimacy been an issue lately? Talk about it. Find ways to lighten the mood around this issue. Maybe you could share the statistics with your spouse about the healing power of a hug and then go in for that hug at least once a day and see how your physical contact increases from there.

Are you both arriving home at the same time? Race to the front door to see who gets there first. It’s even more fun when one spouse has no idea why the other one is running through the front yard like a maniac—been there…done that.

Does your spouse like practical jokes? Time to add some laughter to an otherwise ordinary day.

Marriage is fun! Be intentional about putting aside the necessary life and home management talks and having fun with your spouse.

He will yet fill your mouth with laughter and your lips with shouts of joy. Job 8:21

God Bless,

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