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Men, has the Lord placed a devotional on your heart that you would like to share with other standers?
They were on their way up to Jerusalem, with Jesus leading the way, and the disciples were astonished, while those who followed were afraid. Mark 10:32a
Jesus is always ahead of us, forging the way before us. He is a servant leader, taking upon Himself all of our burdens. As Jesus heads to Jerusalem, He knows what lies ahead but that does not stop Him. On the contrary, His love for us urges Him on.
Again he took the Twelve aside and told them what was going to happen to him. “We are going up to Jerusalem,” he said, “and the Son of Man will be delivered over to the chief priests and the teachers of the law. They will condemn him to death and will hand him over to the Gentiles, who will mock him and spit on him, flog him and kill him. Three days later he will rise.” Mark 10:32b-34
For the third time, Jesus prophesies His passion and death to His disciples. They have given up house and livelihood to follow Jesus. Coming to the realization of what lies ahead, they are afraid, for themselves and for Jesus. Yet, they follow the One who has amazed them with His teachings, healings and miracles. They have been drawn into a community of love, and in spite of being afraid, they continue to follow Jesus. They know Jesus will suffer and they will share in His suffering. They have become family and if one individual in the family suffers, other members suffer with him. In truth, they will betray Him, abandon Him and remain unbelieving as He is tortured and crucified.
Then James and John, the sons of Zebedee, came to him. “Teacher,” they said, “we want you to do for us whatever we ask.” “What do you want me to do for you?” he asked. They replied, “Let one of us sit at your right and the other at your left in your glory.” “You don’t know what you are asking,” Jesus said. “Can you drink the cup I drink or be baptized with the baptism I am baptized with?” Mark 10:35-38
Jesus has just told His disciples that He is going to be arrested, tortured and crucified and they are arguing among themselves about who of them will be greatest in His kingdom. Oh the patience of Jesus in dealing with this misfit band of men! Jesus takes this opportunity to teach His disciples about leadership.
Jesus called them together and said, “You know that those who are regarded as rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be slave of all. For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” Mark 10:42-45
Jesus has just given His disciples the greatest exhortation on authority in all of Scripture. The true leader must know who he is, what he is called to do and love those he leads. James and John do not know who they are but Jesus knows who He is. Jesus has a clear understanding of His mission, “to give his life as a ransom for many” (Mk 10:45). And Jesus is filled with His Father’s love for all men. Jesus knows that to lead well, He needs to love well.
“Father, I want those you have given me to be with me where I am, and to see my glory, the glory you have given me because you loved me before the creation of the world. Righteous Father, though the world does not know you, I know you, and they know that you have sent me. I have made you known to them, and will continue to make you known in order that the love you have for me may be in them and that I myself may be in them.” John 17:24-26
Jesus demonstrates total self-giving love for His Father and for all those saved through His passion and death on the cross. He is the model of servant leadership. My dear Brother in Christ, you called to be the servant leader of your family in good times and in bad, in sickness and health, until death separates. Meditate on the three aspects of Jesus’ leadership:
- Know Your Identity
- Know Your Mission
- Love Those You Serve
You are the beloved son of God. Your mission is to give your life for your wife and family, standing for the healing of your marriage until death separates, if need be. In order to fulfill this mission, you must love those you serve with your very being, without counting the cost. Jesus is going before you, my friend. He is showing you the way. In spite of fear and trepidation, trust that Jesus will bring health and healing to your home. Let His love for you and your family fill you an unwavering love for those you serve for “love never fails” (1 Cor 13:8).
God bless you, my Brother in the Lord.