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Are you standing for the restoration of your marriage? A daily devotional that will offer encouragement from God’s Word as you stand for the restoration of your marriage.

Keep Praying, Loving, and Serving Your Spouse

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I have a restored marriage! My wife and I were separated three times and she filed for divorce twice. The two times she filed for divorce, we were living in the same house. I later learned this is called an in-house separation. We didn’t have much money and we had three teenage daughters. She didn’t have anywhere to go and didn’t want to leave our girls. She demanded I leave the house, but I didn’t. She had and still has many health issues and has not been able to work.

In-house separations are, in some ways, more difficult. You see your spouse every day and are walking on eggshells. With our daughters home, I was able to spend a lot of time with them, but things were awkward for them also. There were so many odd and crazy things that happened while we were in-house separated. One time we had a court appearance in the morning and were at opposing sides of the courtroom and in the evening we were eating together as a family and she was asking me what I wanted to eat. There were other times she would ask me to pray for her in the middle of the night (we were in separate bedrooms, but did even share the same bed for part of the separation.). She would ask for prayers for her physical and emotional health. God was doing something! Of course, I always prayed. I found encouragement from God, friends, Rejoice Marriage Ministries, and Covenant Keepers.

One blessing about an in-house separation is that you have the opportunity to continue serving your spouse. Once I got over the shock of divorce papers and the anger and pain that came with that, I decided to continue praying, loving, and serving. That is what God was clearly telling me. Anytime she would allow me to serve her in some capacity, I would. I did my best to keep praying, loving, and serving her. That is not easy to do when the other person is doing everything to divorce and avoid you.

My part of the marriage troubles was that I had anger issues, used a harsh tone, and used harsh words that hurt my wife. I worked on my issues as I realized I could not change her, but could only work on myself. I went to anger management classes, counseling, kept working, and being the best dad I could be. Eventually, my wife’s heart softened and she was more open to reconciling. We found a Bible-based church that had a powerful ministry for spiritual healing and some fantastic marriage counseling. After several months, we eventually renewed our vows in a beautiful ceremony at the church. Praise God! That was many years ago and we are still going strong. We have our moments of struggle, but have learned to forgive and love each other. We have been married for many years and hope and pray our story can help others. We have a good God!

A couple of verses that sustained me are:

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.  Proverbs 3:4-5

For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.  2 Timothy 1:7

Jeff in Wisconsin

Rejoice Marriage Ministries

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Lalitha
Lalitha
3 days ago

Glory to God Jeff for restoration of your marriage. Father help us trust in You with all our hearts and not lean on our own understanding. In all our ways we submit to You and we know that You will make our paths straight.

Freedom
For the Spirit is here, let there be freedom
Let there be freedom, yeah, freedom
Chains will fall, prisons shake
At the sound of Jesus’ name
Lives made whole, hearts awake
At the sound of Jesus’ name
https://youtu.be/dKxeZsZvp7E

Daniel Tezeno
Daniel Tezeno
3 days ago

PTL, Jeff. Apart from the in-house situation, your stand sounds like mine.
Thank you for your testimony. And thank you many time over, RMM!!

Jonathan
Jonathan
3 days ago

Sounds like my wife and I. We were living separately for over nine years till financial situations ( but God) brought her back home. No divorce has been mentioned and we do share a bed,but there’s that “space “(that I call “The Neutral Zone “) and it’s funny because there were times during the separation she let me hold her,hahahahaa. But I see this as part of the Lord’s plan for our relationship and Restoration to be healed. Thanks for sharing your testimony.

Anne M Hansen
Anne M Hansen
2 days ago

Hi Jeff,
Thank you so much for sharing! This really encouraged me and I sent it to a friend whose children are struggling. God really does amazing things! Praise Him!

Nancy
Nancy
2 days ago

Hello..I’m going through an in house separation and I’m so happy to hear what you wrote. I continue to serve my husband and I am praying, praying and praying for him and for us, whether he speaks to me or not. I wondered if I should continue to do things for him even if he never asks me for anything but I continue to speak to God all the time. Romans 12 20-21 says On the contrary: If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. My husband is slowly speaking to me, contacting me and we laugh together at times. We are still separated but I know it is through the grace of God that he is slowly changing as I am too. Thanks so much for the encouragement but thank you God!!! I trust You!!
This is what the Lord says, he who made the earth, the Lord who formed it and established it-the Lord is his name. Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know-Jeremiah 33 2-3

Claudia
Claudia
2 days ago

Thank you Jeff for this testimony, I also have a inhome for over 3,5 years now. He is the one with Anger issues, so im praying for his deliverence too. You testimony give me hope

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