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Keep the Butter Out of the Fridge!

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“If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough.” ~ Albert Einstein

I realize that most devotionals are prefaced with a scripture or two, but please allow me to explain why I led with a quote from Albert Einstein. Keep in mind that this is same man who also once said, “I want to know God’s thoughts. The rest are just details.”

Both of the above quotes are displayed as posters in my very own classroom.

I’m a math teacher, and I am tasked with helping middle-school aged children understand concepts that can be very abstract and difficult for them to comprehend, especially when they have lunch right after my class! I always remind myself to be guided by simplicity to help my students understand what I am trying to teach to them.

What does any of this have to do with standing for your marriage you might ask? Well, I very humbly feel God has blessed me with the ability to make math relatable to my students by using real-life analogies. Or is it metaphors? I don’t know…I teach math, not English! At any rate, I try to take everyday situations to help my students understand that we often use mathematical logic and reasoning to do so many day-to-day tasks. It doesn’t always work like I intended it to, but at least I get a little bit of humor into the class!

God often speaks to me in this same manner. I want to use an everyday situation to talk about forgiveness.

“‘For here’s what I’m going to do: I’m going to take you out of these countries, gather you from all over, and bring you back to your own land. I’ll pour pure water over you and scrub you clean. I’ll give you a new heart; put a new spirit in you. I’ll remove the stone heart from your body and replace it with a heart that’s God-willed, not self-willed. I’ll put my Spirit in you and make it possible for you to do what I tell you and live by my commands. You’ll once again live in the land I gave your ancestors. You’ll be my people! I’ll be your God!”  Ezekiel 36:24-28 (MSG) 

I am still standing and fighting for my marriage, but several years ago I felt God gave me the following visual to keep my heart soft.

Think of your heart as a stick of butter. If you’re like me, you probably store your butter in the fridge. And if you’re like me, you probably have tried to spread that cold, hard butter on an English muffin for example. How does that work out for us? Usually not well as the cold, hard butter rips the muffin. It tears it, breaks it apart, and you end up with crumbs everywhere. Not the best way to start the morning!

This is exactly what we do when our hearts are cold and lack forgiveness. We hurt others, and we often end up hurting ourselves.

Can you imagine keeping the butter in the back of the fridge? It’s blocked by other items that prevent us from even reaching it. Early in my stand, I openly admit that I had a great deal of resentment for my spouse and what they have done to me and our family. The last thing I wanted to do was reach in the back of the fridge for that butter. I put whatever I could in front of that butter to justify not reaching for it.

God wants to pull that butter out the fridge and let it sit on the counter. Allow God to soften it. When the butter is soft it is easy to spread. It glides right over that muffin. It doesn’t tear or rip and it find its way into all those “nooks and crannies.”

Leaving your heart out to be softened is not easy. I am trying my hardest to do this daily, even though I am still being hurt by what is taking place. I know it might be easier to put it back in the back of the fridge blocked by hurt and pain; hurts that we might use to justify our anger, bitterness, or lack of forgiveness.

We don’t have to look any further than Jesus. He was hurt in so many unimaginable ways, yet he still loved and forgave the same people that caused Him so much pain. The greatest love we can show is to love people who don’t love us in return.

Please take that butter out (and leave it out) of the fridge. We need to be as forgiving as God forgives us.

“In prayer there is a connection between what God does and what you do. You can’t get forgiveness from God, for instance, without also forgiving others. If you refuse to do your part, you cut yourself off from God’s part.”  Matthew 6:14-15 (MSG) 

Aaron Pennsylvania

Rejoice Marriage Ministries

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Pamela Girard
Pamela Girard
6 days ago

Amen and well said! You have writing gifts as well as teaching math and God definitely is speaking through you. We Must stay pliable and forgiving, always remembering great grace and love shown to us. Thank you Jesus!!

6 days ago

Hallelujah ❤❤❤. I was thinking about keeping my heart soft now that my ex and his second wife are having major problems (she packed up everything and moved out aftera 3 year marriage ). Everything in me bristles about talking nicely about any of this. However, I have to TRY to put myself in his shoes and feel the hurt and pain he must be feeling.

Then today while feeling stressed, and driving to work I saw a Covenant transport truck..and my heart immediately remembered what it is all about.

We actually DO keep butter on the table just for toast and spreadable situations AND butter in the fridge for longevity.

Rebekah Oros
Rebekah Oros
1 day ago

I like this picture. Will be a good reminder. Thank you.

1 day ago

Thank you for that very simple yet relatable analogy.

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