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Letting Go the Right Way

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So many pastors talk about letting go as if it is as easy as turning off a light switch. They preach lengthy sermons that speak to the benefits of letting go, but often it is taught without instructions on how to do so. All too often people misunderstand “letting go.” Some mistake it for going in the opposite direction, away from God. Some may think it is forgetting about the promise, and others may believe it is suicide. For years I struggled with this term of letting go, waiting for a promise, clinging to God’s Words, hoping and praying I was letting go correctly. With only prayer and a Bible in my arsenal, I did battle, praying fervently for my husband to return. Because I hadn’t spoken to him in years, I had believed in fact I had let it go. Unfortunately, there was a nagging feeling of hurt, and the necessity of waiting that was always there. Despite moving on and feeling good about myself, thoughts of him still occurred daily.

Starting the year with a new hope and expectation of better, things took a drastic turn around the end of January. A promised promotion was given to someone else, finances to continue my education were suddenly unavailable, friends were not acting as friends, family health issues, and possible displacement from my home happened in a matter of two weeks. I was lonely, upset, and thinking of letting go of life itself. I prayed and said “God, I need instruction. I don’t understand why I am here; this life sucks. I want to go home to You! You need to give me instructions because this life is for the birds. What do I need to do to feel better?”

Knowing that my faith was part of the issue, I went for a walk and searched YouTube for sermons on faith. I was led to Joyce Meyer’s sermon called “Trusting in God.” She spoke about how her first years of ministry were the most difficult. Hearing about other’s success, she broke down. She cried out to God and promised that if she never made a dime in ministry she would continue ministering for the rest of her life.

THAT WAS IT!! That was my instruction. Once the sermon was over, I lifted my head to the ceiling and told God that if I had to move to an apartment, if I didn’t receive my promotion, if I didn’t finish my education, if my husband never came back, if I never got remarried, nor had children, I would still LOVE HIM. At that moment a burden lifted. I just repeated “I will still love You, Lord” for hours. I felt so much better. For the next several weeks I was on a high (honestly, I’m still on that high.)

I realized that so many of us hold on to God’s Word and we lose focus. We hear God say I want you to stand because this will happen, and we mistake God for the promise He has given us. We lose sight of Him. In other words, we are unhappily going through the motions of doing what we don’t want to do because we are looking at His promise and not at Him.

Habakkuk 3:17-18 exemplifies letting go. Though the fig tree does not bud and there are no grapes on the vines, though the olive crop fails and the fields produce no food, though there are no sheep in the pen and no cattle in the stalls, yet I will rejoice in the Lord, I will be joyful in God my Savior. 

Habakkuk says (in his way), I will still love God. Letting go means telling God that even if it doesn’t happen, I will still trust in You; I will still love You. Understand, loving God is being able to tell Him that it doesn’t matter if it happens or not. I know You are with me, I know that You have my best interest, I know You love me, and I will love You.

This is exemplified in the stories of Abraham and Isaac, Job, and Jesus. They all told God they love, fear, and reverence Him—by saying even if You don’t, I love You. Their focus shifted to God, not His promise.

Letting go, was the best thing that happened to me. I don’t have hurt feelings or standing burdens in the back of my mind anymore. I received a much better promotion, I don’t have to move, and I know God will supply all my other needs according to His riches and glory. I am at peace and feeling great.

My friends, I share this in hopes that it may help you alleviate your burdens. There is a future beyond this moment. I hope these instructions on “letting go” the right way will refocus your love on Christ, not your expectations of what He can and says He will do for you.

During this time, He will do so many things with you. Appreciate the blessings you have received so far outside of the stand – the relationships formed with prayer partners, and the abilities to pursue goals and dreams you may not have been able to do before. Look at how far you have come. God has blessed you despite the hurt; He’s sustained you. Thank God for loving you this way. He has blessed you far beyond what you could see. REFOCUS ON HIM!

I wish I were able to tell you all that God has done since my separation and divorce many years ago. Just know, I have had a wonderful and amazing journey. I have come so far and there is farther still to go. He is not done with us yet. I promise you, it does get better, and only gets better-er when you refocus on God, by letting Him know that His promise doesn’t matter because you love Him.

With so much love,

Aerica in Washington DC

Rejoice Marriage Ministries

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Lalitha
Lalitha
1 month ago

Thank you Aerica. God bless you!

Only one worthy
Jesus, Lamb of God
The only one worthy
Savior, from cross to grave
Love made a way, worthy
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Lisa
Lisa
1 month ago

Beautiful devotional

Rene
Rene
1 month ago

Truth! Focus on God not the promise, I love it. Thank you.

Vanessa
Vanessa
1 month ago

Thank you so much for sharing. This is exactly what I needed. Recently, I have also read about unforgiveness. Not forgetting about the past is unforgiveness. In letting go, we let God. But how do we do it? You have explained it plain and simple. God Bless.

Warnecke
Warnecke
1 month ago

Thank you for sharing your testimony, Aerica! God’s blessings are so complex and connected in ways we may never fully understand. He has a better story for us than we could ever write for ourselves – the joyful, the painful, and the challenging parts of the journey are woven together by Him. Life is not what I would have wanted or expected, but I agree with you, God has given me a “wonderful and amazing journey.”

Daniel
Daniel
1 month ago

This is the “letting go” I’ve been searching for! Focusing on God instead of my s situation, keeps me from dwelling on the prodical and poor me. Thank you for your insights Aerica.

Dana
Dana
19 days ago

Thank you for this. I’m much furthering into letting go, like I really have but the part I struggle with is knowing what God has said He will do and continuing believing, praying it, praising Him for the “not yet seen” and being okay if it never happens. Being okay if it doesn’t happen, I mean I will be, He always makes me okay-more than okay. I keep getting more of Him. But I want to look forward to it, believe it, talk about the day it happens and know it will happen. The two things are so opposite and I can’t reconcile it in my head.

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