Charlyne Cares

Are you standing for the restoration of your marriage? A daily devotional that will offer encouragement from God’s Word as you stand for the restoration of your marriage.

Lord, Make Me Different

Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship.  Romans 12:1 

As a Christian, you must live differently. People around you must recognize by your words, actions, and attitudes that you are different because of the work Jesus Christ has done in your life. The Word of God teaches you how you should live. You need to strive for righteousness and holiness living. Righteousness will produce a life of transformation. If you are losing control of yourself, may you realize that the Lord wants you to grow and become more like Him.

After Bob moved back home when our marriage was restored, he would comment, “I couldn’t push Charlyne’s buttons any longer.” My reactions had changed. How did I do that? I chose not to allow strife or anger to come into our home every day. I decided to let the Lord deal with issues of any kind. I ignored the critical words and belittling comments and prayed that the Holy Spirit would defend me. I said in a prayer, “Lord, You brought Bob home. You change his heart! I trust You, Lord.” I zipped my lips. 

After I prayed that prayer, Bob would often come to me later and apologize. The Holy Spirit was speaking to Bob’s heart. I praised the Lord for the change I saw. I had to surrender everything to the Lord and trust Him to be my defender and protector. If Bob did not apologize, I did not react or defend myself. I gave it to the Lord and forgave Bob immediately.

Allow the Lord to take any vengeance on your spouse. You don’t need to deal with it. You don’t need to say everything that crosses your mind at that moment. The enemy is having a field day in your mind. Ask yourself, “What would Jesus do?” 

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing and perfect will.  Romans 12:2

You need to learn how to pray for your husband or wife and pray that they learn to realize who is speaking to them. Pray that your spouse will learn to fear God, seek the Lord, and choose to run from the sinful desires and lusts of the flesh.

Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.  1 Corinthians 6:19-20 

You are asking the Lord to transform your and your spouse’s minds. The mind is the center of logical reasoning, ethical judgment, and moral awareness. We cannot whitewash what sin is in our own lives. Your spouse can walk in spiritual victory if they choose to follow the Lord Jesus Christ.

Therefore, with minds that are alert and fully sober, set your hope on the grace to be brought to you when Jesus Christ is revealed at his coming. As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.”  1 Peter 1:13-16  

You and your spouse can accomplish all this through the power of the Holy Spirit, who cleanses both of you from your sins and renews you in the image of Jesus Christ.

Never stop praying for your spouse to be set free from the bondage of sin and the strongholds in their life. Our Lord is the deliverer and the restorer for your family! Don’t give up!

God bless,

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12 days ago

Thank you Charlyne! I needed this. The enemy has been pushing my buttons from morning and I actually have not paused and invited the Lord into my problems. Father may we and our spouses not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of our mind. Then we will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing and perfect will.( Romans 12:2)

My Hallelujah
Peace, be still
Calm this soul
I need You here now
Restore my hope
I confess, I’ve been afraid
Remind my heart, Lord
Increase my faith

Monserrat Celaya
Monserrat Celaya
11 days ago

Gracias por recordarme, que debo confiar en el señor y cerrar mis labios!!!, El enemigo a estado día a día desde hace varios meses feliz de la vida, haciendo que diga cosas y pelee con mi esposo, hasta había decidido ya no seguir de pie, porque estoy tan cansada, que nada cambie, pero cuando estaba leyendo esta reflexión del dia de hoy, este mensaje llego a mi corazón de:
Isaías 40:31
Pero los que esperan a Jehová tendrán nuevas fuerzas; levantarán alas como las águilas; correrán, y no se cansarán; caminarán, y no se fatigarán.
Se que el camino es pesado, pero Dios es mi fuerza y mi sostén. Gracias Dios.

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