The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” … But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. Genesis 2:18, 20-25
On your wedding day, did you ever think you would encounter problems in your marriage? Did you discuss ahead of time how you would work out a conflict? Did you agree that you would not allow anyone or anything to destroy your marriage?
Does it feel like you and your spouse have wandered from those goals to remain unified? What happened? The enemy came in to steal, kill and destroy your marriage. You may not have been a Christian when you were married, but you loved each other. Will you go down memory lane and remember all the beautiful memories you have had with your beloved husband or wife? Will you be the first in your marriage to choose to love your husband or wife unconditionally? It takes one spouse to start on the healing journey.
Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8
Don’t forget the sanctity and covenant of marriage. Don’t take lightly the vows you made. Marriage is God’s plan. Will you allow Him to make it all He wants it to be? He has the power to heal and change your family.
The Lord can solve any problem that you may be facing. Will you give up listening to everyone else, and choose to seek God’s perfect will for your life and marriage? Will you stand in the gap to start working on your marriage?
“I looked for someone among them who would build up the wall and stand before me in the gap on behalf of the land so I would not have to destroy it, but I found no one.” Ezekiel 22:30
Spend time with the Lord. Ask Him questions. Write them down and then wait for His answer. Never forget that nothing is too hard for God to do, including resurrecting a dead marriage!
If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:2-8
Have you lost all your feelings of love for your spouse? Beware. The enemy is coming after your emotions and feelings and is tormenting your mind with doubt, unbelief, and fear of the unknown.
May the Lord have mercy and grace on you and your spouse. Pray that your spouse will hear and see the truth about the consequences of sin in their life. We must stop thinking that the grass is greener on the other side because it is not! Instead of looking at other people and thinking they would be a more suitable spouse, start watering your own grass and working on your marriage.
Today, ask your Lord to rekindle the love in your hearts so that you both will feel that spark you had for each other again. I know it can happen. This is going to be God’s true love – not a lust of the eyes or the flesh which is a counterfeit feeling. Don’t give up!
In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church–for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery–but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:28-33