Mark 10 Nine

Are you happily married and looking for tips on maintaining a God-honoring marriage? This weekly devotional will give you encouragement for your marriage.

Marriage That Goes the Distance

Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth. Malachi 2:15 

Charlyne is out doing what she enjoys doing second best, being a grandmother, as she shops for small gifts for our grandchildren. (Before you ask, what my wife enjoys most is teaching the Word of God to hurting men and women, helping them to find their answers in Christ.)

I sense that at times, I, my wife, and every man or woman who is seriously seeking God’s help in their marriage situation are guilty of the same fault. We focus so much on fractured marriages and marriage restoration that we forget to look at the many long-term marriages surrounding each of us. We received an email one night that blessed me: 

“My husband and I are celebrating 50 years of marriage. I was 14, and he was 19 when we married. We have ten children and 38 grandchildren, and about 20 great-grandchildren. We are enjoying each other and are very much in love. We are grateful to God and give Him the glory.” 

Added together, this blessed couple has 68 descendants that have been given the example of permanence in marriage in their own family. Factor in their spouses and children and children’s spouses, and there will someday be over 500 family members to follow the married-for-life example of this couple. On the other hand, if they had divorced, that same 500 people would be hearing about the struggles and situations you know all too well today.

I wish this couple lived close enough that Charlyne and I could have met them in person. No doubt we would hear about struggles in their marriage during the past half-century, but I suspect that we would see the love of Jesus outshine every obstacle the enemy tossed in this family’s way.

Charlyne and I were blessed that we had parents who remained married until death separated them. Yes, our parents had their misunderstandings, but separation and divorce were never an option.  Marriage, for them and so many other couples, is for life.

I hope it doesn’t burst your bubble, but our marriage is not perfect. When God puts two people, who are often opposites, together in a human relationship, there will be times of strife and misunderstanding. Anyone who attempts to testify otherwise is not being truthful with you. What is different now from our pre-divorce days? My wife and I both recognize where that strife comes from (the enemy), and even greater, we know who can remove it (Jesus Christ).

Love, as this returned prodigal understands it, is not about how little we can do but how much we can do.  It is not about playing with Scripture to see if we can get by with something but about always doing and being more than we sense we should be.

Love means not having to ask an opinion on what the Bible allows or does not allow but walking as far from the line as is humanly possible.

This week, would you ask God to place one or more couples on your heart who have been married for 40 or 50 or 60 years? Take time to write a thank-you note to that couple, expressing how much their example in marriage means to you. Not only will you bless their hearts, you might find two new prayer partners who will partner with you in praying for your marriage to model this longevity.


But the eyes of the Lord are on those who fear him, on those whose hope is in his unfailing love, to deliver them from death and keep them alive in famine. Psalm 33:18-19

God bless,


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