This is one of Charlyne’s favorite teachings as it teaches you how to love your spouse unconditionally when your spouse is living in sin and does not deserve it. Let God’s Word show you how to love your husband or wife unconditionally! Love never fails. You can do it! This is one of the keys that changed Charlyne’s life and then in time, brought Bob home.
“You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven.” Matthew 5:43-44
How are you doing with loving your enemies? Who are some of your enemies? Do you love your prodigal spouse in spite of their behaviors, attitudes, actions, and words? Have you asked the Lord to put His agape love in your heart for the other? The Lord will give you His love as He died for all sinners and wants that other person to be saved also.
You may feel today that you have more people against you than are for you. Keep your eyes on your Lord. Do you know all that the Lord says about loving your enemies? Now you have to put it into practice!
“But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them. Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you.” Luke 6:27-31
It is easy to love the lovable; it is not as easy to love the unlovable. It is not easy to turn the other cheek. Ask the Holy Spirit to pour unconditional love into your heart so that you can learn to love your enemies as Jesus did and as the Bible teaches us throughout the Word.
I know that you are hurting, feeling abandoned, lonely, and rejected by your spouse. I know that your spouse may be saying things that wound you emotionally. God knows your hurts and needs. Showing unconditional love is truly the beginning of developing your maturity in the Lord. I learned how to do this, by thinking, “What would Jesus do?” That kept my mind and heart in a proper perspective, and it stopped me from having a pity party.
If you enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; if he is thirsty, give him water to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head, and the Lord will reward you. Proverbs 25:21-22
Let God take revenge on your enemies. When you study the Bible, you read that the Lord protects His children from their enemies. Pray that your husband or wife will become obedient to God’s will and way in their life and ask God to bless them. You will be blessed for your obedience to God’s Word. Read Romans 12. It truly teaches you about loving those who are coming against you now.
Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord…. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:17-19, 21
Ask the Lord to show you how to love your husband or wife and others who you may consider your enemies. Choose every day to live in peace and unconditional love regardless of what others do to you. Give them to your Lord to handle. Read Genesis 13:1-18. Abraham chose to live in peace and let Lot choose the property he wanted first.
So Abram said to Lot, “Let’s not have any quarreling between you and me, or between your herders and mine, for we are close relatives. Is not the whole land before you? Let’s part company. If you go to the left, I’ll go to the right; if you go to the right, I’ll go to the left.” Genesis 13:8-9
What would you have said to Lot? Read the scripture below showing how the Lord blessed Abraham because of his obedience to God’s will and way. We can strive every day to live in unity and peace. Allow the Holy Spirit to change you and your husband’s or wife’s heart. See what the Lord can do through you by touching and changing your behavior, your actions and your attitude, first. We can make a difference in this world every day!
The Lord said to Abram after Lot had parted from him, “Look around from where you are and look north and south, east and west. All the land that you see I will give to you and your offspring forever. I will make your offspring like the dust of the earth, so that if anyone could count the dust, then your offspring could be counted. Go, walk through the length and breadth of the land, for I am giving it to you.” Genesis 13:14-17