Standing Firm Mens Devotional

Are you standing for the restoration of your marriage? A daily devotional that will offer encouragement from God’s Word as you stand for the restoration of your marriage.

Punishment Undeserved

The views expressed below are those of the writer and may not reflect the views of Rejoice Marriage Ministries or the Steinkamps.

Men, has the Lord placed a devotional on your heart that you would like to share with other standers?

It’s funny you know. Not really funny ha, ha but funny peculiar. After a few years of standing now I am kind of a different person than I was five years ago. But really, I’m not. When I first found this website at Rejoice Marriage Ministries, I remember reading through all the questions and answers there. One of the questions read: How about telling about tough love? I have given and given and my spouse just keeps taking. I am enabling my spouse to have that life and not to have the consequences of it.

I thought to myself that the answer was a good enough answer for me and so I would work at making it a reality in my life. Little did I know that life always serves us a bit more than we can handle at times. Living your life the way Jesus wants you to is tough at best and nearly impossible on the bad days. It is so difficult to keep loving someone when they do not see it as a sacrificial love on your part.

That sacrifice we offer up though is not for the other person or our spouse. It is a sacrifice to our Lord. If I can just keep my eyes on Him and do His will I am much better off and can live abundantly another day. Tomorrow will take care of itself. None of us will ever be judge, jury and executioner. We don’t posses the credentials to do that. God knows us way better than we know ourselves. I am not to punish my spouse in any way. I was called to love and be a blessing to others. Others meaning and including my wife and family.

A year ago an attitude like the one I described above would have been a pipe dream for me. I have difficult months, days, hours and minutes. When we call on the Holy Spirit to work in our lives we can be sure that He will do just as He said. What I am saying is that if I don’t regularly live in Christ I run out of ‘gas’ and coast through the day. Eventually, I am beat up and weary. I have left undone some things I should have completed and did some things I shouldn’t have done. Until that final day when I meet Jesus face to face, I am working out my salvation on my own. It is an utter lie if I live my life on my own without giving all glory to God. Allow the Holy Spirit to guide you. When you are sure that it is Him, according to scripture, follow with all your heart.

A person may think their own ways are right, but the Lord weighs the heart. To do what is right and just is more acceptable to the Lord than sacrifice.  Proverbs 21:2-3 

Paul in Minnesota

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5 months ago

Very well said Paul!

Rebekah Oros
Rebekah Oros
5 months ago

Yes, this. I needed this reminder. So many people have accused me of enabling my husband, but God didn’t call me to set boundaries with, but to lay down my life for my husband. It’s brutal at times and means forgiving when the pain is unreal.

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