Restored and Redeemed

Has your marriage been restored? Restored & Redeemed is a devotional for those in a restored marriage.

Purpose In Restoration

But I have raised you up for this very purpose, that I might show you my power and that my name might be proclaimed in all the earth.  Exodus 9:16

Maybe you are wondering why you should go through all the pain of restoration. I mean, standing for marriage restoration itself is hard enough, right? One could easily get discouraged discovering just how challenging the restoration journey is. Here’s where I want to encourage the socks off of you!

Let me remind you that God has this grand plan for you. In this plan, He changes you and your spouse to become different people. A special people set apart for His work (Deuteronomy 14:2). He changes your family tree. No longer is the curse of divorce passed on to your children and grandchildren. Finally, He changes your marriage. It will no longer be what it was. It will become this amazing thing you couldn’t imagine.

God changed us. I honestly tell others that God changed me on a molecular level. I saw the world differently. When I saw my husband struggle so much spiritually, God gave me a glimpse of just how real the spiritual world is and the battles that constantly ensue. My husband saw that too after coming back home and realized what happened and what he came out of. 

We learned that we must be on guard at all times because Satan really does go around seeking whom he can devour (I Peter 5:8). We saw God on a deeper level, too. No longer was He this obscure, distant being we called ourselves serving for years. Instead, He became very intimate and personal with us. This amazing God of the universe talked to us, comforted us, really cared about us. Before the destruction of our marriage, this was head knowledge. Afterward, it became real and tangible. And as time marches on, He continually amazes us with the depth of His infinite love for us, from the great big things to the tiny things that are too numerous to count. 

God changed our family tree. For us specifically, we couldn’t have kids before restoration. We had been infertile for ten years. God promised me kids though. One month after my husband came home, we got pregnant. God changed our tree that way, but I mean the legacy passed on to our children after God restores marriages. Divorce is a curse that plagues our society, and it gets passed down more and more into future generations. Restoration is the blessing that stops that curse and teaches our children never to give up. It tells them, “See, look what God can do! Nothing is impossible for Him (Luke 1:37)!” It’s concrete evidence of faith that passes down to our kids and changes their lives as well as our own.

God changed our marriage. There’s a song that says, “She calls her man a good one,” and describes how wonderful he is. I think it’s sweet because that’s how I feel about my husband. However, there are some out there that would stop and ask, “Wait, how can you think he’s good when he left you, cheated on you, and wanted to divorce you?” That’s an easy answer. He’s not the same guy who did those things, just like I’m not the same person I was either. 

There were times that I hated my husband for what was done and begged God to release me from this marriage, but God wouldn’t. God just kept telling me that what He was doing was only the beginning. Now I understand. Those times I begged God for a more worthy man, a better marriage, and a fresh start weren’t unheard…they were on hold. 

I had to wait, let God do His thing, and change us. Oh, how much would we have missed if we had given up! Our marriage is so strong now, tried by fire. My husband knows that I’d stand by him through anything because I have. And I know my husband loves me beyond words because (as He told me) one who is forgiven much, loves much. We are that one flesh that God planned and we desired.

“Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—as her great love has shown. But whoever has been forgiven little loves little.” Luke 7:47

I am so grateful for where we are and who God has changed us to be. It has been such a blessing in dark times like our daughter’s leukemia diagnosis, a failing business, the loss of our dads, and miscarriages. I know that God has a purpose for all of it…the greatest of which is to tell others what God can do. 

God is real, and He loves you. God has a purpose for your marriage restoration. It is worth all the agony because whatever we give to God, He multiplies (John 6:1-14), including our pain.

God bless,

Jennifer in Mississippi

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Rhonda
Rhonda
4 months ago

Thank you for this encouraging word. I needed this so much today. This ministry has truly been a lifeline for me. Thank you.

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