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Are you standing for the restoration of your marriage? A daily devotional that will offer encouragement from God’s Word as you stand for the restoration of your marriage.

Remember the Lord Your God

Each week we share guest devotionals. The views expressed below are those of the writer and may not reflect the views of Rejoice Marriage Ministries or the Steinkamps.

Has the Lord placed a devotional on your heart that you would like to share with other standers?

How good are we at remembering? Remembering good times? Bad times? How good are we at remembering God’s promises?

I don’t know about you, but I have been having selective memory. It’s easier to focus on my spouse’s faults than on good times. It’s easier to focus on the storms and heartaches of current circumstances and forget about God’s promises. One of the days when I was arguing with God yet again and asking to be released from standing for marriage restoration, the Lord gave me a message from Deuteronomy 8. It’s remembering God and I was really convicted for doubting God and His Word and the promises He has spoken to me for marriage restoration.

It reminded me of how faithful God has been in this wilderness season. Like everyone else, I don’t like this wilderness season. I wish I were already in the Promised Land of marriage restoration. But God uses this wilderness season to make us more like Jesus. After all, what spouse would like to come back to the old us without any change whatsoever?

“Remember how the Lord your God led you through the wilderness for these forty years, humbling you and testing you to prove your character, and to find out whether or not you would obey his commands.”  Deuteronomy 8:2 (NLT)

Breaking down this verse we see God:
1. Leads us
2. Tests us to build character
3. Checks our obedience

We are not alone in the wilderness, abandoned to wander around by ourselves. God always leads us. He strips away our pride and humbles us. Jesus was humble. And if we want to be like Jesus, we should be humble too.

In the same way, you who are younger must accept the authority of the elders. And all of you, dress yourselves in humility as you relate to one another, for “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”  1 Peter 5:5 (NLT)

Plus, pride leads to hard hearts and is a characteristic of the enemy.

“Its heart is hard as rock, hard as a millstone.”  Job 41:24 (NLT)

“He sees everything that is high; he is king over all the sons of pride.” Job 41: 34 (ESV) (This refers to Leviathan spirit).

God uses this season to know what’s in our hearts. Well, He being God, already does, but we kind of don’t know. During this season, all the junk in our hearts comes out, so we find out how we really are, can face up to our weaknesses and get God’s help to change. If someone is stuck in traffic for a long time, is that person angry, impatient, shouting at fellow drivers? Well in our wilderness and waiting are we speaking life or death? Are we reacting in anger or fear to our challenges or are we trusting in God?

God has given us instructions with regard to our stand and our spouses, our children and our unique set of circumstances. Are we obeying Him or do we argue, wanting our own way?

God provides for us in this season and teaches us to totally depend on Him for everything

“Yes, he humbled you by letting you go hungry and then feeding you with manna, a food previously unknown to you and your ancestors. He did it to teach you that people do not live by bread alone; rather, we live by every word that comes from the mouth of the Lord.”  Deuteronomy 8:3 (NLT)

God disciplines us as we are His children. He loves us too much to leave us the way we are. Don’t we correct our children and be tough with them so that they grow to maturity? Well God does the same with us

“Think about it: Just as a parent disciplines a child, the Lord your God disciplines you for your own good.”  Deuteronomy 8:5 (NLT)

So our part is to fear only God, obey Him and walk in His ways

“So obey the commands of the Lord your God by walking in his ways and fearing him.”  Deuteronomy 8:6 (NLT)

God uses the wilderness to build us up for our Promised Land of marriage restoration so that we can go in and take possession of it,

“Be careful to obey all the commands I am giving you today. Then you will live and multiply, and you will enter and occupy the land the Lord swore to give your ancestors.”  Deuteronomy 8:1 (NLT)

And the wilderness season is our training ground for spiritual warfare to throw out the illegal squatters – the enemy – and take possession of our Promised Land.

He did this to teach warfare to generations of Israelites who had no experience in battle.  Judges 3:2 (NLT)

So let us persevere and finish strong and testify how God restored our marriages!

So do not throw away this confident trust in the Lord. Remember the great reward it brings you!  Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do God’s will. Then you will receive all that he has promised.  Hebrews 10:35-36 (NLT)

Standing strong in agreement for restoration of all marriages

God bless,

Lalitha in India


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3 months ago

Amen Lalitha and God Bless you. Your words are a timely reminder and encouragement for me. Thank you for letting God use you. I also stand in strong agreement with you for the restoration of all marriages.

3 months ago

These are the words I needed today, as I have been in a battle with my emotions; this devotion was on the same subject as our message at church yesterday. Praise God for answering prayers and guiding us🙌🏻

3 months ago

Hey, Lalitha,
I battle with staying with standing. I too argue/reason with God or attempt to give Him deadlines in order to get the marriage restoration happening already, to no avail. He will not be managed/controlled. It is all on His timeline. Coincidentally, yesterday the minister referenced in his sermon the prodigal story and his father’s loving receiving of a very stinky prodigal.

3 months ago

Thank you, Lalitha. Our pastor, too, referenced 1 Peter about humility and pride yesterday. Wow, what a reinforcement to read this devotional this morning! He certainly wants me to receive and apply this message about humility. Father, we exalt Your name and praise You for what You have done, what You are doing and what You are going o do! For Your glory and for our good, In Jesus’ name, Amen.

3 months ago

Thank you all for your comments ! So good to hear how God is moving! God bless you!

3 months ago

It’s incredible how God speaks to us. It’s no coincidence that I studied Deuteronomy 8 this morning and todays devotional is on the same scriptures. This devotional was a great encouragement and confirmation that the lord is with me during this wilderness season. I can’t wait to reach the promised land.

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