NEW PODCAST RELEASED THIS WEEK
Dealing With Your Spouse and Another Person
Your marriage may have been impacted by separation or divorce, and now your spouse is involved with someone else. In this episode, we will discuss how to handle this situation with grace. We also discuss how to handle family events together and navigate this new situation with your children.
Below are excerpts from a few of the testimonies we have received in the past week, each shared with the writer’s permission. These are not to tell you how to stand and what to do, but are given here to share how God moves when people are praying. Do you have a testimony to share to encourage others?
Whom have I in heaven but you? And earth has nothing I desire besides you. My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever. Psalm 73:25-26
“I’m amazed at what God has done in this journey. My daughter told me once ‘Separation is time for preparation.’ I didn’t understand at the time until now. The separation was hard and felt I wasn’t going to make it. He was with the OW but was done with the relationship after a little while. Then we started to communicate and go out to eat. I started to see God working in both our hearts. God gave me peace and strength as I went through this. I have no regrets going through this process because it changed me first then my husband and now we are friends/ love birds, something we didn’t have before. We are still working things out and I will wait until God says it’s time for my husband to come back home to stay. I’m so in love with the Lord. Only God!” (Texas)
“My husband has been home for a couple of years now. The Lord told me in advance that it would not be easy, but it’s going to be worth it. It has been very challenging. But I know there is ABSOLUTELY nothing to hard for my God! And I know that it’s all working together. And it’s going to be so worth it!” (Tennessee)
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28
“I would just like to say how God is so good. I’ve been getting closer to Him and finding out He is the only source to fill my cup. God has me very busy in my church and His presence is moving in my life. He is providing every need as I wait for restoration. I give Him praise. My beautiful wife and I are legally divorced, and she is not at home, BUT God is moving big time. We are in a good place. We spend family time together with our son and we share lots of good positive interactions. I praise God for this. Although she is still living in the far country and there is still the other person, I know God will fulfill His promise of restoration as I heard His voice at the beginning of this journey. I give God all the glory. In Jesus’ name.” (Indiana)
“Several years ago, my husband, working in the United Kingdom, called to say he found someone else and can’t be with me anymore. He asked for a divorce which I declined. The other woman would contact me, telling me he’s not my husband anymore because he’s with her now. But glory be to God who has the final say. I found Charlyne Cares and read about her marriage restoration. I knew right then and there it was God who took me to this page. I learned to zip my lips, fast, pray, and cry out to God. After seeing my husband’s profile picture of him and her, I couldn’t take it anymore. I went to the altar one Sunday and told God enough is enough, not another year without my husband. Within a few months my husband started video calling me. The next month was our wedding anniversary, and he wrote me a touching text. My children and I are now living in the UK with him. Only God! Praise the Lord. Luke1:39,45.” (United Kingdom)
At that time Mary got ready and hurried to a town in the hill country of Judea…” Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her!” Luke 1:39,45
“Last year, my husband came to me out of the blue and said, ‘I’m unhappy.’ To my surprise and dismay, I was completely blindsided. What do you mean? How can I help? How do we fix this? He was so deep in his thoughts he felt that the only way out was to separate and stated, ‘Sometimes the right thing is the hard thing.’ Within a week he had leased an apartment. I was a complete mess. Within minutes I turned to God. It had been years since I felt a true relationship with God. I had gone about the world in my own ways. I still stand for our marriage. I won’t let down, even on the toughest of days. I share my story because there is hope. Although I am not in restoration quite yet, I believe in God’s plan and timing. God is working in me in ways I never imagined possible, and I know he must be doing the same in my husband. We still have an entire life to live together.” (Illinois)
“My husband divorced me a few years ago. He has now filed for an annulment as he and the OW have a child together. Our marriage was at a stalemate for years. At first, I tried reaching out to anyone who would listen and always got the same advice. Move on. Let it go. You’ll find someone too. However, something (the Holy Spirit I believe) was not letting me accept that. I couldn’t imagine bringing someone into my kids’ lives after the confusion of the divorce. I began praying for a sign to let me know what I should do in regards to the vow I took before God on our wedding day. He kept sending me the word Ezekiel. I had heard that along with a guardian angel, God also assigns an angel for marriages. Maybe that was our marriage angel. I opened the Bible later to Ezekiel. The first sentence begins: in the fourth month on the fifth day. Our anniversary date.” (New Jersey)
“My covenant spouse married the OW last Saturday in a civil ceremony – when he left here after telling me face to face that he loved me. He is a very confused man. BUT God. He has given me His peace. I am trusting God for their legal adultery marriage to end, his surrendering to Jesus, and a restored marriage for us. God is faithful. I continue to pray for each of them to surrender to Jesus. I don’t want to see either of them to perish. Standers, never give up on God.” (Pennsylvania)
The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance. 2 Peter 3:9