Restored and Redeemed

Has your marriage been restored? Restored & Redeemed is a devotional for those in a restored marriage.

Something Has Changed

For I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.  Isaiah 41:13

You may wake up one day and realize that something has changed in your marriage. It may seem like you don’t even recognize your spouse anymore. If you were the one who stood for your marriage to be restored, this feeling of distance may seem familiar.

There will be different seasons in your marriage. There will be seasons where you or your spouse change. Career changes, extended family issues, changes in your children’s lives, and other factors play a role in a marriage. Life is never going to stay stationary.

If your parents are still alive, there will likely come a day when you have to take a more significant role in caring for them. As your children grow up, they will move out and start their own families. Even while your kids are in the home, major changes in their development will impact a marriage.

You and your spouse must stay focused on your relationship when these seasons happen. Don’t shut down, and don’t allow your spouse to shut down. It is easy to become idle and drift.

As a child, our family would visit Lake Placid, a small city just a few hours from home, every summer. It was not only known as the caladium capital of the world, but it was a community known for water sports. We would visit the same lake and enjoy time on my uncle’s ski boat.

I remember bobbing in the water, waiting for him to circle the boat back around and get the tow rope to me so I could attempt to get up on my skis. I didn’t think I was moving; I was sitting there trying to navigate skis that were way too long for my body, praying no fish would come and touch me. Despite my stillness, I would always drift. Other boats going by would create waves on the other side of the lake that would eventually cause me to move. Sometimes, it would take my uncle a couple of passes to get in the right spot so I could grab the rope.

Life can be the same way. The struggles we face day after day create waves that will move us. Our prayer should be that those waves move us closer to Jesus and our spouse.

Don’t ever stop talking.

You cannot navigate life with your spouse the way Jesus intended if you stop communicating. There may be days when you take a break from each other for a few minutes or hours to cool off before tackling a touchy subject, but it is important to make sure those times of quiet and space don’t last.

Commit to helping each other through the waves that you will face. Recognize that there may be events where outside help will be required. One couple I know of struggled deeply with physical intimacy after their restoration. This husband did what he could to help his wife, but once they sought the help of a doctor, they realized the medical issues she was dealing with and started working towards a solution. Don’t let pride stand in the way of getting help.

When those waves hit, help your spouse refocus. Dream together. Reflect on God’s faithfulness in your lives and remind each other how He will continue to provide for your family.

As life continues, there will be changes. Be purposeful about walking through those changes as one, with Jesus leading the way so your marriage can continue to be all that God intended.

“I will remember the deeds of the Lord; yes, I will remember your miracles of long ago.I will consider all your works and meditate on all your mighty deeds.”  Psalm 77:11-12

God bless,

 

 

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Jennifer
Jennifer
2 days ago

Amen! Thank you and God bless you and RMM.

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