Today’s devotional is written by Lori Steinkamp Lassen. She is our only daughter, who has been married to her husband Scott for 25 years. Lori is the mother of four children, and has worked with the ministry for many years. May her devotional deepen your spiritual walk with the Lord. – Charlyne
Parents — This devotional will encourage you, but it is really intended for you to share with your children. Don’t forget that they are also going through trials because of your marriage problems. I pray they will find godly adults to help them work through the feelings they have. – Lori
I was 14 years old when my parents finally divorced. It was not a surprise to anyone in our family, but probably shocking to our church friends.
Being in middle school is confusing enough, but now I was dealing with going back and forth between parents. My dad never had an apartment suitable enough for my brothers and me to stay the weekend, so we normally just did day visits with him on the weekends. That was fine with me. I didn’t care if I saw him or not. I fully blamed my dad for my parents’ divorce. I saw my mom as the innocent victim, and he was the bad guy.
As I got older and matured, I realized that Satan was deceiving my dad. Sin can be fun — for a time. Then the consequences of sin appear, and the fun is gone. That sin-filled lifestyle was what my dad was living.
During this time, I was involved in our church’s youth group and very involved in having a boyfriend. I’m sure there was some deep reason why I turned to boys for attention that I wasn’t getting from my dad, but at the time, I just thought I was a normal teen.
I also noticed my mom was very consumed with someone new…Jesus Christ. She had been a believer for many years, but I saw something different in my mom. She was sold out to Jesus like never before. She also started this thing called, “standing for her marriage.” As you could imagine, I was shocked to hear her say she wanted my dad back. What??? Why would we want him back? He causes trouble.
In time, I realized why we wanted Dad back — because we needed to be a family again. More importantly, I realized that we couldn’t quit when things got hard. I couldn’t walk into my middle school and quit because I had a hard test coming up. I couldn’t quit studying for my learner’s permit. My parents couldn’t quit marriage. Yes, things got hard, but I had to decide if I believed the Bible or not.
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.” Matthew 18:21-22
You see, God did some miraculous things in the Bible. People were healed by just touching His robe, people were saved, and the impossible was made possible by Jesus Christ. I had to decide if that was just a neat storybook or if the God of yesterday was still able to transform lives.
Guess what? He is able! He wants to transform your mom and dad. He wants to make your family whole again! You can be part of that. You can pray for your parents. You can study scripture and realize that God wants to do something amazing and you can be part of it!
I know that being a teenager is hard. You are dealing with things that your parents never faced. It doesn’t matter if you are in a public school, a private school or home schooled, there are other kids out there just like you. Are you involved in a church youth group? If not, find one. I don’t know where I would be today had it not been for some loving, wonderful youth leaders. Does your school have a Bible club? If so, join today!
Teenagers, if you ever want to talk, please get in touch with me by clicking here, I would love to pray for you and your family.
I lift up my eyes to the hills — where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth. Psalm 121:1-2