Restored and Redeemed

Has your marriage been restored? Restored & Redeemed is a devotional for those in a restored marriage.

The Importance of Humility in Marriage

When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.  Proverbs 11:2 

The Bible has a lot to say about being humble. We can also find many scriptures that warn us about the destruction pride can bring. Humility is one of the critical components of a healthy marriage. Without humility, we see others as less than ourselves, which can cause friction in so many different relationships. Humility brings respect and understanding in all relationships, but especially in marriage.

For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you.  Romans 12:3

When we have pride in our lives, it can cause us to put ourselves on a pedestal that we don’t belong on. You may think, “Wow, I have been doing such a great job this week. I have done so much around the house, and I haven’t gotten angry this week; why can’t my spouse be more like me?”

This mindset makes us quick to judge our spouse. Having pride in marriage can turn your relationship into a competition rather than a union. You will find yourself constantly comparing your deeds to those of your spouse’s.  True love is being selfless and not tying your spouse’s performance to the love you give.

Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.”  Proverbs 16:18 

Humility takes understanding. You must understand where your spouse is coming from when you have differences. Pride causes us to think of ourselves, how hurt I am, and how that made me feel. There will be a time and place to address those feelings, but in the moment, a heart of understanding and empathy can keep you from making a bad situation worse, causing you to do something you regret.

Your spouse is not your enemy. If you can’t humble yourself with the lifelong partner God gave to you, then who will you ever be able to humble yourself with? The enemy is so good at causing you to believe your spouse is out to get you and causing strife in your marriage. If both of you can humble yourselves, understand the other, and have empathy in all situations, God will be able to do amazing things through your obedience. As you continue to work on healing in your restored marriage, finding the right place for humility will help in that process.

God’s desire for your marriage is to have a heart of humility, putting your spouse above yourself, caring for their needs above your own, just like he did for you. We love ourselves so much that it can be hard to think about putting someone else above us. But that is exactly what Jesus did for us.

“… just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” Matthew 20:28 

Jesus is the perfect example of humility; looking at his life and words, we can see how to truly act. This is why it is so important to cover yourselves in God’s Word daily so that during times when humility is needed, you are not pulling from an empty tank, but instead a tank that experiences the grace and humility God shows to you every day.

Ask God to give you humility this week as you interact with your spouse.

God bless,


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1 month ago

Thank you Kyle! That was a great devotional.

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