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The Importance of Leaving the Door Open

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“I know your works. Behold, I have set before you an open door, which no one is able to shut. I know that you have but little power, and yet you have kept my word and have not denied my name.”  Revelation 3:8 (ESV)

Does your spouse know that they have an open door at home that nothing can shut? Not anger, not unforgiveness, not pain, not pride, not divorce, not OW/OM in their life, etc.

Friends, we can only maintain the door to home open when we rest in the Lord and bring all that our spouse has done, is doing and will do to God. Our Lord knows, but when we tell Him to take control and we willingly give him everything that our spouse has done and is doing, we are left with room in our hearts to be filled with agape love and with the fruit of the spirit.

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.  1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NLT) 

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.  Galatians 5:22-23 (ESV) 

My husband came to visit the kids recently and as we were sitting outside watching them play, my sister and her family were here and told us about a bird that was hurt. She rescued it, attended to it and now the bird’s wing is almost healed. She bought a cage for it, fed it food and water. She talks to it every day and spends time with it. She mentioned how she will let the bird free once it’s healed and can fly. She said it gives her joy to think of the moment that she will let the bird free. However, she has grown to love that bird and is very attached to it.

My husband then said, “Don’t worry, leave the cage on the patio or porch with the door open and the bird will return to you every day.” Right away I related that to our prodigal spouses and the Lord told me to write about this. Are we leaving the door of our home and our heart open so that we will not have reproaches of what they have done?

Just like birds who get used to an environment where they are well treated, attended to and provided with their needs – a safe place, food and water – let us make sure that if your spouse is away from home that we are sowing good seeds. That they will know that their needs will be met at home and that the door is open for them unconditionally. If you don’t have contact with your spouse, pray that they will remember the good times at home and forget all the bad that was used by the enemy to cover the good times. Nothing is impossible with our Almighty God; He can have your spouse remember the good from your marriage life.

“Behold, I am the LORD, the God of all flesh. Is anything too hard for me?”  Jeremiah 32:27 (ESV) 

Are you ready to care for that hurt spouse whom the Lord will bring home? Just how my sister, with love, patience, compassion and perseverance cared for and attended to the hurt bird, our Lord wants us to care for and help our spouse the same way our Lord cared for us when we came to Him hurt and wounded. Therefore, our spouses will not want to leave our home. Why would they if their needs are being met?

During my research of birds, I learned that they will either leave or stay in their cage depending on the type of treatment they receive. If they are not treated well as their needs are not met, once that gate is open, they will leave and not return. As you and I know brothers and sisters, our spouses left because we were not meeting their needs as we were blinded by the enemy. But now we have a chance to be instruments for their healing and return home where they will not want to leave. Let’s make sure our homes are ready and with the door open for our spouses to find comfort and sanctuary until their wounds are healed by the Almighty Lord who healed us.

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.  Psalm 147:3 

My prayer is that you allow our Lord to heal and bind your wounds and broken heart so that you can help your spouse, kids and others around you.

God bless,

Lorena in Oregon

Rejoice Marriage Ministries

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3 days ago

Love this analogy

Norma Williams
Norma Williams
3 days ago

Lord, help us to have our home ready and leave the door open. Prayers needed🙏🏽🤎🙏🏽

Terry Jordan
Terry Jordan
3 days ago

Okay . . .my husband came by and knocked on my bedroom door this morn to let me know I’d need to leave the front door open because the painters are painting the door. I was still in bed with back pain. It triggered sadness in my heart, so I began my time with the Lord in tears and asked Him to show Himself today, to let me know He was right beside me. Then I opened Charlyne’s devotional. That’s the great Lord we serve!

3 days ago

This has been something I’ve been wrestling with. I know the Lord has called me to walk in love. It’s painful, but He keeps reminding me He’s right here with me for every step. As I ask Him how to do it, He continues to be faithful and show me exactly what to do. Your message is a perfect example of the Lord answering and showing me how to continue to walk this out. Thank you!

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