Restored and Redeemed

Has your marriage been restored? Restored & Redeemed is a devotional for those in a restored marriage.

The Role Your Finances Play in Marriage Restoration

For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.  Matthew 6:21

During His earthly ministry, Jesus spoke more about money than about any other topic. That which was important to Christ should be important to us as well. We need to understand God’s financial principles so we do not fall victim to Satan’s traps in that area.

During my final year living in the pigpen, my salary was greater than it had been any year before or has ever been any year after. Nevertheless, I came home with a maxed-out credit card and several delinquent accounts. There is a high price to pay for sin, and I was paying part of the price on the installment plan.

Charlyne ran a household on her salary and minimal child support during those two years. She made drastic cuts to balance her budget while attempting to pay off the family bills that I had left behind. While my family did without, I was living what the world would call “the good life.”

Yes, it was a synthetic lifestyle, but nevertheless, it was an expensive lifestyle. At our remarriage, my back pocket was dragging on the floor because of the weight of my credit cards. Satan attempted to use finances to create more guilt and shame in my life. How could I expect a godly wife who had been praying and standing for me to now help pay off my past due bills, many of which bore the identification of lounges and other places I should not have been?

Following our remarriage, I maintained my own checking account. I reasoned that since I no longer paid for an apartment, I could pay off my own bills. I continued giving Charlyne a check, the same amount as my former child support.

I foolishly thought that should this remarriage not work out, I would still be in control of my own finances. I intended to keep something back for a rainy day – perhaps a rainy day without my wife. For a while, this dual financial system seemed to be working. On Sundays, she gave her tithe, and I gave my offering. A small dent was being made against my huge credit card balance.

Regardless of free will, our Lord Jesus does what He must to get us where He desires us to be. Our double budgeting system ended when the company by which I was employed pulled out of our area. My job was moved to Tampa, over 250 miles away. I could either resign or relocate our family from the area where we had lived for over 30 years. They received my resignation.

Even though Charlyne had stood for me, praying and covering my nakedness, I did not expect her to suggest that we make my debts part of our family finances. But she did. This godly woman offered to help me pay the cost of my sin.

I expected a feeling of entrapment when our finances were combined. Instead, I felt more of that ever-increasing peace that came from finally being home – bills and all.

The best practical suggestion I could give a newly restored couple is to carefully plan a family budget. Be realistic as to income and expenses. Several godly people provide budgeting helps that could far exceed what could be given here. Obtain and make good use of budgeting material. Foremost when you budget as a couple again, don’t forget God’s work. It is not only tithe that belongs to God. It all belongs to God. The tithe is the least we can do.

“Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. Test me in this,” says the Lord Almighty, “and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that there will not be room enough to store it.”  Malachi 3:10

God bless,


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