The views expressed below are those of the writer and may not reflect the views of Rejoice Marriage Ministries or the Steinkamps.
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made. In him was life, and that life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness, but the darkness has not understood it. John 1:1-5
Sin darkened the world. God is His infinite love, sent His Son into the world as expiation for the sins of man. Christ is the light in the darkness. His birth gives us hope.
The word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. John 1:14
The sin of Adam and Eve had closed access to God. God sent His “love” into the world as a human person, yet fully divine. The sacrifice of one man, Jesus Christ, reclaimed access to God for all who believe. Christ was a beaten and broken man, a man of sorrows like one from whom men hide their faces. He was killed so that many would be saved from sin and death, if they only believe that He died for their sins and the sins of the whole world.
The Christmas story is one of faith, love and obedience. This Christmas, take your eyes off your marital problems for a moment and focus on the Holy Family. Mary and Joseph were the Christ Child’s earthly parents. In this role, they are perfect parenting models. I pray that husbands and wives will learn to be “perfect” parents through the holy example of Mary and Joseph, who walked in faith, love and obedience to God’s will for their lives. God’s faith, love and obedience to His children are also shown through the birth of the Christ Child. He is the promised Messiah spoken through the words of the Prophets.
When Mary wondered how it could be that she would be with child, the Angel of the Lord told her that the child would be of the Holy Spirit. Mary responded in faith, love and obedience. Joseph so deeply honored and loved Mary that he was unwilling to subject her to the humiliation of an illegitimate pregnancy. He chose instead to “quietly dismiss” her. When the angel assured Joseph that the baby was of God, he responded with faith, love and obedience to what the angel had spoken to him in a dream. He spent his life protecting and supporting the Holy Family.
Mary and Joseph continually modeled this faithful behavior throughout their lives. They trusted God’s plan for their lives in humble obedience through a deep love and faith in Him. Their singular purpose in life was to serve God. Husbands and wives would do well to strive for the same love and devotion that Mary and Joseph had for their family through their wholehearted trust and faith in God.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, 13
The best Christmas gift you could give your spouse is to love her unconditionally and to pray for her. Let your light shine through the darkness of her hardened heart. My prayer is that your wife will be moved by the power the Holy Spirit working within her to return home to your loving arms this Christmas.
Be encouraged by the birth of the Christ Child, your Savior and Redeemer. Emmanuel! God is with us! I pray that the Lord give you love, joy and peace this Christmas along with the healing you so deeply desire. May your heart be so overflowing with the love of God that you echo the words of Mary at the Annunciation…
My soul glorifies the Lord and my spirit rejoices in God my savior. Luke 1:46-47
May the light of the Christ child burn in your heart brightly!
Merry Christmas, dear Brother.