A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. Proverbs 31:10-11
My daughters love to watch all the Hallmark movies over the holidays. My sons mock the movies and make sure to remind them that nothing on that screen is reality. Do you like those movies, or do they frustrate you?
The beautiful scenery, the actors, the Christmas wish that gets solved in a matter of 90 minutes. If only! The reality is that the holidays can be stressful. There is a lot of added pressure, often on the ladies, to buy gifts, prepare a special Christmas meal, organize a Christmas card picture, attend all of the Christmas events, and, oh yea, don’t forget about the baking. Society wants us to know we are not successful women unless we have whipped up some homemade Christmas cookies.
Over the next couple of weeks, I will give some tips for the husbands and then suggestions for the wives on how you can be a blessing to your spouse over the holidays.
Help with the household duties-
I don’t know how your family splits the household chores, but find a way you or the kids can help take some of the pressure off of your wife. When there is a big job to split in our house, I write down the to-do list and let each family member choose their task. Ask your wife if you can help with some of the chores. Offer to do the grocery run for her if she gives you a list. It may take you a bit longer if you aren’t familiar with the store, but it will be a huge blessing for your wife.
Be a buffer for your wife –
Holidays are so fun, but they can also be stressful for many families. You may see relatives who don’t agree with your faith or have those well-meaning relatives who come filled with suggestions on how you can raise your kids better, make more money, or have a nicer yard.
Pay attention to your wife’s emotional needs as the holidays approach. If you know that the task of wrapping all of the gifts will overwhelm her, arrange for a babysitter and offer to help with the job. Even sorting or labeling gifts would be a huge blessing!
Encourage your wife to take time for herself over the busy season. That may be a simple run to the coffee shop alone. I am sure she will appreciate your thoughtfulness.
Please pay attention to her emotional needs and be ready and willing to step in a protect her during this busy season. If you don’t know her needs, sit down and ask her. We entertain a lot, and I was getting overwhelmed one season with having to serve and not ever being able to enjoy my guests. Once my husband knew my frustration, he found a way to step in and take some of that load. Ask your wife to share ways you can help be a buffer for her.
Show appreciation –
Whenever I sit at a funeral, I often wonder if the person who died realized how much people cared about them. Do we take enough time to show and tell those we love how much we appreciate them? Show your wife by your words and actions that you are thankful for all she does to make the holidays special.
Be an ear to listen if she needs to vent her frustrations. You don’t have to fix the problem, but you can be an encourager. Do something spontaneous. Pick up flowers from the store on the way home, leave her a note thanking her for all she does to make the holidays so memorable, or make arrangements for her to have some time alone. Be intentional about showing appreciation for this special woman.
Your wife will appreciate your attempts at helping her destress around the holidays. Do you have other ideas on how to bless your wife during this season? Please share them below in the comments.