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We Must See with Maturity

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When we are born, we cannot see clearly with our eyes due to maturity. However, we “see” with our ears, our touch, and smells. Babies, especially, “see” with the smell of their mother and her voice. When they want something, their only means of communication is to cry and holler…wwwhhhaaaaa!

In the midst of marital troubles, separation, divorce, abuse, infidelity, abandonment, disrespect, and other heart-breaking actions with our spouses, we must learn to “see” with the mind of Christ and keep our “eyes” on Christ.

…And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us. We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith. Because of the joy awaiting him, he endured the cross, disregarding its shame. Now he is seated in the place of honor beside God’s throne. Hebrews 12: 1-2 (NLT) 

We could all sit around and tell of the horrible things we have gone through or seen. However, what progress would be made? To become stronger? Now that our eyes can see clearly, it is difficult to not react to what we see. But if you don’t keep your eyes on Christ, the enemy will use those things to keep you bound in self-pity, condemnation, and pain. He will keep you from maturing.

Though you have made me see troubles, many and bitter, you will restore my life again; from the depths of the earth you will again bring me up. Psalm 71:20

Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. James 1:4 

See the FACTS of our situations (according to Scripture):

  • We DO NOT fight against flesh. Their actions and words are because of the demonic oppression in their life brought on by sin. (Ephesians 6; 1 Corinthians 5:1-5)
  • We have weapons, that is, the Word of God and faith in God. We also have the Holy Spirit to guide us. (2 Corinthians 10:4; Acts 20:28; Romans 8:26)
  • Our life was never supposed to be sunshine and rainbows because Satan hates us. (John 16:33 [NLT])
  • Our flesh is weak. (Matthew 26:41; Romans 13:14; 2 Corinthians 12:7 [NLT])
  • God works in both the physical and spiritual realm. What you see may be opposite of what is occurring. (Hebrews 11:1; 2 Corinthians 4:18; Ezekiel 12:2 [NLT])
  • Maturity in Christ takes time. God is a good Father, and He wants us all to be saved. (1 Timothy 2:4-6; Romans 8:25; Mark 4:30-32; Colossians 1:9-14)
  • The wages of sin is destruction. Sin cannot be blessed. (Romans 6:23; Ezekiel 16:43 [NLT])
  • Worship, praise, and rest are powerful in the spiritual realm! (1 Chronicles 29:29; Psalm 145:2, Psalm 43:5 [NLT])

May we all continue to mature, until we are called home. May we each understand that God is in control and that He will use our situations to mature us, so that we understand Him better. May we put our hope and trust in God, the Almighty Creator and Father, who cares for each and every one of us, including the spouses and OW/OM.


Heavenly Father, you are Almighty and amazing! I give my marriage to you today. I give my children to You; I give you my finances and job; I give you all of our family members. Help me to be an active member in your Kingdom by using the gifts and talents You have given me.

Abba, I don’t understand everything that is going on, but I want to trust You. I want to trust You with my life, so I declare that I do! I trust You; I praise your Holy Name! I exalt You in the midst of my trial and sorrow. Speak to me, Holy Spirit, about my situation. I open my heart to You! Give me patience and rest in my spirit. I choose to rest.

I do not take for granted, dear God, what You have me going through. But I ask that You give me the grace and strength I need to endure. Encounter my children and my husband/wife with your love, grace, and truth. Bless my enemies and foes, who can’t see themselves being used to destroy my marriage and family.

Thank You for maturing me. Thank you for taking care of me. Thank you for caring for me no matter how imperfect I am! Thank You for caring for my children and my husband/wife. I ask that You carry me through to Your promises and all these things in Jesus’ mighty name, Amen!

Regina in Texas


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1 month ago

Amen! Thank you Regina! Father help us mature in You and stay focused on You and not the enemy. Help us love our spouses like You Jesus as You are the King of Love

King of Love
The curse of sin is broken now
No fear, no lie will hold me down
The Son of Man reigns over all
Jesus Christ, the King of love

1 month ago

Thank You for the precious reminder, dear Father, “What you see may be opposite of what is occurring”. May we always be able to rest in the assurance that You are still Who You say You are and we are still Whose You say we are. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

1 month ago

Amen! Thank you Regina!

Tracy D G
Tracy D G
1 month ago

This is so beautifully expressed & a much needed reminder!
Thank you❣️

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