Today’s devotional is written by Lori Steinkamp Lassen. She is our only daughter, who has been married to her husband, Scott for 27 years. Lori is the mother of four children, and has worked with the ministry for many years. May her devotional deepen your spiritual walk with the Lord. – Charlyne
Do you remember the vows you made to your spouse on your wedding day? It doesn’t matter if you wrote your vows or repeated traditional vows, chances are you made promises to do things like, love, honor, trust, and commit to your partner for life.
My husband recently hung a sign in our bedroom. It simply says, “We Still Do.” We didn’t have an empty wall in our bedroom, so we decided to hang it right over our bedroom door. In hindsight, it is the perfect spot for it. What a beautiful reminder as we leave our room and enter the chaos of the world and even the chaos of our house sometimes.
We still do.
We will fight for one another when one of us may be struggling to find that will to fight.
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. 1 Thessalonians 5:11
We will love each other when we may not look so loveable.
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” John 13:34
We will help each other live for Christ and be willing to have difficult conversations when sin begins to enter our relationship.
“If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. Matthew 18:15
We have some fantastic episodes of the Fight for Your Marriage podcast coming out soon, where we interviewed couples about the problems they once had in their marriage. Every couple says the same thing. Their problems didn’t start overnight, it was a slow drift apart. There were hundreds of micro-decisions that led a person to sin.
What if we could flip the script, and instead of falling into the trap of fighting in our marriages, we would decide every day to fight for our marriage?
That requires two people who are striving towards the same goal.
It means you choose to set aside your will and allow Jesus to be the center of your marriage.
It means you choose the difficult conversation instead of the silent treatment when you have had your feelings hurt.
It means you look only to your spouse for the love and affection you need, never looking to an opposite-sex person who is not your spouse.
It means allowing transparency in your relationship. There shouldn’t be secrets that are kept from your spouse. Be purposeful about having a relationship that seeks to share instead of seeking to conceal.
Suppose more couples would commit to seeking the Lord’s will in their marriage and commit to each other to do the hard work needed to have a thriving marriage. I would guess we would likely see fewer divorces and more couples enjoying the beauty of marriage.
Will you take the first step in repairing your marriage today? That may be a conversation that needs to happen with your spouse or apologizing for sin in your life. Ask the Lord to reveal how to take that step and then do it. You won’t regret being sold out to your marriage!
We still do…do you?