Mark 10 Nine

Are you happily married and looking for tips on maintaining a God-honoring marriage? This weekly devotional will give you encouragement for your marriage.

What Are You Feeding Your Marriage?

If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.  1 Corinthians 13:3

You would think that living in South Florida, our grass would be a beautiful shade of green all year long. Usually, that is what happens. We don’t face the harsh winters that wreak havoc on our yards. My husband and I started to notice our backyard turning brown. It didn’t take very long before it lost all its green color.

We discovered there are many reasons your yard can turn brown. It could have been caused by mowing it too short and stressing the grass, or by a lack of water, or even by fungus or bugs.

We began fertilizing the yard and meticulously hand-watering it every day, hoping to see signs of life returning. It didn’t take long before we noticed tiny sprouts of green grass coming up between the brown patches.

My dying yard reminds me of many marriages. Some people seem to wake up one day and realize they are no longer content in their marriage. It didn’t just happen overnight. There were likely days, weeks, or even years of neglect that created a slowly fading relationship.

There will be dry patches when two people aren’t focused on strengthening their relationship. Just as my yard started responding to nurture and care, your relationship will respond to the same care.

What are you feeding your marriage?

How are you pouring into your marriage? It may have been months since you and your spouse took time away from your jobs and responsibilities to sit across the table from one another and have a conversation. Don’t fall into the trap of just talking about the kids or family matters, but talk about each other and the future. Don’t be afraid to dream.

Here are some conversation starters to help get you going:

  • What was your favorite memory as a child?
  • Where is one place you would love to travel?
  • If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?

If I spent time watering my neighbor’s yard, I would never see a change in my grass. Don’t expect a happy marriage if you aren’t investing in it. Spend time watering your marriage. Stop and look at each other. There have been busy seasons where my husband and I are doing life side-by-side, but we realize we haven’t slowed down long enough to invest in each other. Talk, hug, connect. Put your phone down and see that person sitting beside you.

What can you do this week to nurture your marriage?

Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.  Romans 12:9-10

God bless,

Want to receive the Mark 10 Nine devotional right to your inbox? Subscribe below!

Notify of

Inline Feedbacks
View all comments

Get Charlyne’s Free Teaching:

The Path To Marriage Restoration​

This teaching is Charlyne’s introduction to “How To Stand & Fight For Your Marriage!” Charlyne’s goal is to teach you, a stander, or someone you know with marriage problems, the path to marriage restoration that she has learned over the past twenty-five years.