Mark 10 Nine

Are you happily married and looking for tips on maintaining a God-honoring marriage? This weekly devotional will give you encouragement for your marriage.

What Are You Pursuing in Your Marriage?

So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.  Have nothing to do with foolish, ignorant controversies; you know that they breed quarrels.  2 Timothy 2:22-23 (ESV) 

I knew the pan I had just removed from the oven was still hot, but I thought I could move it over without burning myself. I was wrong. I dropped it and immediately tried to cool my fingers off.

Sin is similar to that hot pan. We often get so close to it, thinking that we will not be impacted by it, but then we get burned.

In Paul’s letter to Timothy, he gives him great advice on avoiding sin.


That seems so simple. Just flee! Run away from it.

In our marriages, we must be purposeful about fleeing things that are unhealthy for our relationships. If a couple is made up of two people who are pursuing God and fleeing from things that could be sinful, that will be a couple who is working together on their relationship in unity.

People often contact us and are upset that their spouse has no interest in working on their relationship. These verses from Timothy give us the practical steps to take.

When we stop pursuing what the world offers us and instead seek the things of God, we will see growth and unity in our relationships. 

Pursue Righteousness—Are you pursuing God each day? If not, what needs to change in your life to allow you to have personal time with Jesus each day?

Pursue Faith – Are you successfully fighting the temptations you face? Would you be proud to have Jesus physically with you all day long as you scroll through your phone or make entertainment choices?

Pursue Love—Jesus wants us to show others selfless and sacrificial love. Are you loving your spouse this way, or are there strings attached? What can you do to love your spouse in this way?

Pursue Peace – Is your home a place of peace? Do you behave in a way that promotes peace or chaos? How can you pursue peace in your relationship with your spouse?

When you pursue Jesus, He will equip you to continue growing into His calling as a husband or wife. A person who pursues Jesus will communicate in a way that resolves conflict rather than creates conflict.

Do a self-evaluation and determine if you need to apologize to your spouse for your behavior. It is never too late to humble yourself and commit to starting over. Ask a trusted friend or family member what characteristics they see in you as a spouse. It will take humility to hear the answers.

Find a couple who you respect and spend time with them. Ask them to share ways they have fought to make Jesus the center of their marriage. Most importantly, pray and ask the Lord to give you a soft heart that will choose to pursue Him and, as Paul charges Timothy, run from foolishness. 

God bless,

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