Restored and Redeemed

Has your marriage been restored? Restored & Redeemed is a devotional for those in a restored marriage.

What Did Your Marriage Cost You?

“Standing for marriage restoration is messy.”

I felt immediate sadness when I recently heard someone say that sentence.

The Bible has a lot to say about marriage. It was God’s plan. The first marriage took place in the Garden of Eden (Genesis 2:21-22). Marriage is a picture of the relationship with Christ and His Church.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her  to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word.  Ephesians 5:25-26 

God’s plan for marriage was perfect. It is to be between a man and a woman and last a lifetime. When two believers follow Christ’s design for marriage, it can last a lifetime.

“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”  Mark 10:9 

How sad to hear someone say standing up and fighting for the covenant God instituted is “messy.” I’m afraid those sentiments are followed by others, possibly even people in the church who call themselves followers of Christ.

As Christians, our heart breaks when we hear of a young child forced into foster care or a homeless person sitting on the street corner, unable to find work. Others have heartbreak at the thought of animals sitting in shelters, unable to be rescued.

Yet, when we talk about marriage, specifically about taking a stand and fighting for the covenant that God ordained, people find that “messy.”

As a person with a restored marriage, I am sure you can reflect on your journey and recall someone who wasn’t supportive of your decision to reconcile with your spouse. You may have had relatives tell you that, “You deserve better.”

When did we, as a society, stop valuing what God values? When did marriage become something that can be thrown away when we decide that we no longer have feelings toward our spouse?

You are part of a special group of people. I’m sure when you shared how God has transformed your marriage, you hear that often. Whenever I share my parent’s testimony, and the work Rejoice Marriage Ministries is doing, I hear things like,

“That’s amazing, but I could never do that.”

“Wow! I didn’t even know you could fight for a marriage that way.”

We need to do better. I’m mad. I want people to value their spouse as much as they value the things I mentioned. When that happens, they will fight for them, surrender their will for them, and love them the way Jesus has loved them.

I hope that as we recently celebrated Easter, you have had the chance to read through the accounts of Jesus’ death, burial, and resurrection. In Luke chapter 23, Jesus says, “Father, into your hands I commit my spirit.” It was finished—not only the process of Jesus’ death but the assignment He was given. The obedience to the call was finished. That obedience to His Father cost Him everything.

What did your journey to marriage restoration cost you? Embarrassment? Shame? Loneliness?

You have experienced the power of Jesus to heal and restore. You have seen Him transform your spouse and maybe even yourself.

Will you join me? Will you never shy away from sharing your miracle with others? You don’t need to find a stage or start a podcast to do that. You can testify to what God has done in your marriage, one person at a time. The world needs to know that the man or woman God brought into your life, the one you committed to loving and being with for a lifetime, was worth the price you had to pay.

You may encounter someone praying for a wayward prodigal who thinks, “It is too late. There is no hope.” We have the opportunity to share the good news of Jesus with them. Our Savior, who was dead and buried for three days, is alive! He can breathe new life into a marriage that also seems dead.

Let’s tell the world that the messy thing is not marriage restoration. It is messy to watch Satan destroy marriages and families and sit by doing nothing about it.

I invite you to join us in praying for men and women standing in the gap and praying for healing in their marriages. If you would like to commit to praying and receive periodic email requests from us, please sign up below. What better group of people to storm the gates of Heaven on behalf of hurting marriage than those who have seen healing in their own homes?

I want to pray for others by joining the Restored & Redeemed Prayer Group. Click here to join us.

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.  Ephesians 6:12

God bless,

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