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Are you standing for the restoration of your marriage? A daily devotional that will offer encouragement from God’s Word as you stand for the restoration of your marriage.

What Have You Done with Jesus?

Today’s message is from Bob, who was a prodigal who returned home and was remarried to me for an additional 23 years before the Lord took him home to Heaven. Bob wrote 19 books from the prodigal’s perspective for more than two decades after our divorce and remarriage. – Charlyne

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”  John 3:16-17  

Charlyne and I stayed up until midnight doing something we seldom do; watching television. Earlier we had taped a favorite program, “Pulpit Classics,” which features videos of worship services from years past at Dr. Jerry Falwell’s Thomas Road Baptist Church, in Lynchburg, VA.

The program that aired was from a sermon preached over 30 years ago by Dr. J. Harold Smith. It was titled, God’s Three Deadlines. Dr. Smith gave illustration upon illustration of men and women who had crossed one of God’s three deadlines and God had called them into eternity. That night, long ago, when this sermon was preached at Thomas Road Church, over 2,000 people were saved in three great altar calls.

Dr. Smith spared no words in describing the Christless Hell, a place of eternal torment, for people who cross one of the three deadlines. They are:

  • Blasphemy of the Holy Spirit,
  • Sinning away your day of Grace
  • Sinning unto death.

We both went to bed with heavy hearts, thinking about the scores of prodigal spouses who are living so near to one of God’s three deadlines.

Let’s be clear that you are standing for your marriage for one main reason; so that your now-prodigal spouse will, by the grace of God, enter into a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Marriage and full family restoration must be only the results of the one you love coming to Christ.

I wish every stander could have sat in our family room and heard Dr. Smith give examples of people who mocked God – and were dead a few hours later. Without question, your view on standing for your marriage would have been different this morning. The things that seemed so important and so painful to you would pale compared to having your beloved go to Hell.

What have you done with Jesus? The answer could be multiple choice:

  • You depend on Jesus for your every decision. As the old hymn says, He walks with me and talks with me along life’s narrow way.
  • You acknowledge the power of Jesus, but do not have a personal relationship with Him. He is, in effect, your last resort in times of crisis.
  • Jesus is known to you only as a good man or a historical figure.
  • You are sensing the call of Jesus on your life and on your stand.
  • You are asking, “Who is Jesus?”

It was nearing midnight when we saw Dr. Smith extending an invitation to the people in that crowded church to confess their sins and to enter into a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. He especially called for people with secret sins in their lives to respond. We watched as scores of people streamed to the altar of the church.

Many were responding from out of the choir. These people were not off the streets, but had been within the church for at least long enough to join the choir. I suspect that some could have sat through years of sermons, yet God chose that specific night, that time, to touch their hearts.

I wish it were possible to track each person who was in that church on a Sunday night 30 years ago. Some went on to mature and grow in the Christian faith. There are probably men who are now pastors who were saved on that night. Others began the walk of a Christian, but somewhere fell away. A few might have stayed as no more than church members. I suspect there are people at that service who, once more, hardened their heart to the calling of the Holy Spirit.

“A farmer went out to sow his seed. As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path; it was trampled on, and the birds of the air ate it up. Some fell on rocky ground, and when it came up, the plants withered because they had no moisture. Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up with it and choked the plants. Still other seed fell on good soil. It came up and yielded a crop, a hundred times more than was sown.” When he said this, he called out, “He who has ears to hear, let him hear.”  Luke 8:5-8 

I wonder if there were standers or prodigal spouses in that great service. How fervently was someone praying for their prodigal to repent? Did they continue to pray until God touched their prodigal, or did they grow weary and give up? How much would they be praying today – if they had not stood by a casket sometime in these past 30 years?

The answer to your every question, to your every decision, to your every valley experience, is Jesus. He is waiting patiently to be your Savior, your Friend, your Companion, your Comforter, your Defender, and your Provider. Following Jesus is not one way to restore a marriage; it is the only way to restore a marriage. Anything else is a counterfeit.

Once you have reconciled your life with Jesus, Charlyne and I pray that you will continue to pray until every member of your family also knows Jesus personally. Your prayers and your stand can mean the difference between Heaven and Hell for someone you love. 

What have you done with Jesus? If you are unsure, we invite you to visit the most important page on the Rejoice Ministries website.

For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.  Romans 6:23

Because He lives,

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Lalitha
Lalitha
1 month ago

Wow! This really spoke to me as I have been giving God a few ultimatums! I have a question- what is the ” Sinning unto death?” Its mentioned in 1 John 5:16 and I never really understood what it meant. I also don’t understand what is meant by ” Sinning away your day of Grace”? Blasphemy of the Holy Spirit- this I know.
Father we lift up all prodigals that You will seek them out, give them repentant hearts and restore them to a right relationship with You. Father grant our spouses repentance, lead them to a knowledge of the truth so that they can come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil after being captured by Him to do His will ( 2 Timothy 2:25-26)

Good News
Freeing each soul that was bound up
Loving the one who was unloved
Giving mercy to sinners
And he still does
His love is as vast as an ocean
He cares for the poor and the orphaned
The healer that stopped for the one
And he still does

I’ve got good news
https://youtu.be/-AvEaQl3BdA

Ginnie
Ginnie
1 month ago
Reply to  Lalitha

Hi;)
‘Sinning unto death’ is what I have heard is that you dont have respect for your own self. That you are doing everything to hurt yourself into death. For example drinking alcohol and not wanting to stop- or do things that are not safe. Going 100mph on a motorcycle with no helmet. Its almost like you are testing faith. And trials that you cause when you know that nothing will happen. Attention seeker in a negative way. Thats how it was explained to me. You know God will protect you by you being foolish. Which we all know thats not how it works…

Lalitha
Lalitha
1 month ago
Reply to  Ginnie

Thanks Ginnie!

Makenzie
Makenzie
1 month ago
Reply to  Lalitha

Lalitha,

Can I ask what you mean by you have given God ultimatums? Like to bring your husband home? & that’s the verse I pray over my husband everyday. That he WILL come to his senses.
He came by the house yesterday when I wasn’t here & he saw all my scriptures, prayers, declarations with his name in it that I have printed out from this site, the book a power of a praying wife on my night stand. All things I hope grab his heart & convict him to he has a wife really fighting for this marriage & praying for him. I got discouraged when he left something on my bed. It was a gift I got him for his birthday. He was snooping around the house because he found it. He left a note that said –

Thank you but STOP. You can’t buy me… & I just don’t know why he would even say that. & I keep asking God why did he come by the house in the first place?? None of his stuff is here. He took it when he left. He hasn’t even been by here either in a long time so I just didn’t understand…but that note discouraged me like he saw all my scriptures & left the house leaving me that note.
I don’t know what God is doing…

Lalitha
Lalitha
1 month ago
Reply to  Makenzie

By ultimatums, I mean dictating terms and conditions to God. Prodigals are double minded and most of what they speak is from the enemy to discourage you. So tune him out and listen to what God says! ( Easier said than done- I know!)

Makenzie
Makenzie
1 month ago
Reply to  Lalitha

Yeah I do that too…

I just pray everything he saw will have an impact on him & convict him. We haven’t talked in weeks…& for whatever reason God did not have me home at the same time or to arrive when he was still there.

When you say listen to what God says – I was reading a devotion on here (sometimes I go back & read older ones) & Charlyne wrote

– what has the lord been saying to you? What words, signs, songs, or dreams has the lord been speaking to you since the very beginning of your stand?
Will you believe in the promises that the lord has spoken to your heart? If you are still doubting, ask the lord for another word of confirmation & then stop doubting forever.

So I wrote that out then I did. I asked God if this is really what He is saying…even though I believe He’s given me so much already. I just would tend to wonder if it could be a coincidence, but now I know it’s not. God kind of blew my mind…

I asked that & then I read this.

-Isaiah 46:10

“I am God, and there is none like me. I make known the end from the beginning, from ancient times, what is still to come. I say, ‘My purpose will stand, and I will do all that I please.’ From the east I summon a bird of prey; from a far-off land, a man to fulfill my purpose. What I have said, that I will bring about; what I have planned, that I will do.”

The very next day @Alicia literally shared that verse with me & said that’s what comes to her mind & God here shows us what He wants He will do.
Then she sent an article about how there are no coincidences & that verse was in it! So that’s 3 times with this verse.
The amplified says – truly I have spoken; truly I will do it. Be assured I will do it.

So now I know it’s not a coincidence! & the only thing I’m asking God about is if He said He would restore my marriage so I know that’s the only thing He could be answering me & referring to.

Last edited 1 month ago by Makenzie
Bianca
Bianca
1 month ago
Reply to  Makenzie

I just want to note, to all, the meaning of coincidence actually means a God appointment in the literal of the language it came from.

Makenzie
Makenzie
1 month ago
Reply to  Bianca

What would seeing the same scripture over & over again be referred to as? Like you read it, then it’s your devotional, then someone texts you or shares with you the same verse. Or you ask God to specifically show you a verse by way of an answer.

What would you call me watching a video on a restored marriage testimony & it’s called- a promise is a promise & then the next day our devotional is called – a promise is a promise. A promise of marriage restoration.

& then me reading the verse Isaiah 46:10 that says God makes known the end from the beginning. He reveals & that what He said He will accomplish. Truly Hes spoken. Truly He will do it. So I read that after reading a devotion asking God for another word of confirmation & then after seeing that verse the next day someone shared the same verse with me & again after. So 3 times with the same verse of God saying – truly I have spoken. Truly I will do it.

I just tend to think seeing the verse over like that is a coincidence, but I know now there is no such thing. Just trying to make sense of it.

Last edited 1 month ago by Makenzie
Makenzie
Makenzie
1 month ago
Reply to  Bianca

Some say I over spiritualize everything so if it’s not God, then what is it. Just happening?

Alicia
Alicia
1 month ago
Reply to  Bianca

Thank you for saying this. This was in the article I sent Makenzie.

Makenzie
Makenzie
1 month ago
Reply to  Alicia

Alicia did you see my response in – how long must I wait lord?

Makenzie
Makenzie
1 month ago
Reply to  Alicia

& what I said above? If there is no such thing as coincidences then would all of that be God speaking to me? & if that is God speaking to me, then that’s God answering me.
I don’t know why I can’t grasp that & just believe it & hold onto it & stand on it.

Makenzie
Makenzie
1 month ago
Reply to  Alicia

& if it is God answering me…
That He is saying – Truly I have spoken; truly I will do it.
So is that God saying – I am going to restore your marriage? It will come to pass? If that’s the only thing I have been asking Him about?? & He’s shown me this verse 3 times so He is answering me regarding my marriage if that’s the only thing I have been asking Him about?

I don’t know why I can’t grasp that & just believe it & hold onto it & stand on it.

Well I know why… just because it looks like it’s over & I haven’t even spoken to my husband in weeks…seen him since May, & there is no physical evidence that that is happening. That restoration is happening. Or because of what I have done too & then the factor of free will… that’s why it’s hard to believe.

Alicia
Alicia
1 month ago
Reply to  Makenzie

The Word tells us God’s views on marriage. We also know there are many parts of scripture that shows us that God loves to restore things to an even better condition than before. Your disbelief could be a stumbling block for you. There is no way that I can prove to you that this is what God wants. That’s where faith comes in. You have to believe in the unseen. Let your doubt and fear disappear and have full trust in the Lord. Yes! God wants marriages to last. He said that when he joins a couple together that no one can separate them. We know that we will see troubles, especially as married couples, as Paul writes in 1 Corinthians. God overcame and can help you overcome this as well. We are not fighting FOR victory, we are fighting FROM victory. You have to choose to believe. No ones words will be able to tell you for sure. Even though it looks a certain way, maybe you just havent seen it yet. Do not give up! Hold on! Remain strong! And believe!

Makenzie
Makenzie
1 month ago
Reply to  Alicia

What do you mean my disbelief could be a stumbling block for me?
It’s hard to not doubt when you haven’t even talked to your husband at all & haven’t seen him in months… no contact. It’s like I see what God’s word is saying, but then I also see how it looks hopeless & in no direction of a restoration.

I just know that I asked God if He was saying this. If He was restoring my marriage & then I saw the verse Isaiah 46:10 & then you shared it the next day & then again. So that’s 3 times with the same verse that says – be assured I will do it. I just am wondering if that is God answering me about this? That’s why I get confused, discouraged, doubt etc.

I was more so just asking if there are no coincidences & you watched a marriage restored testimony called – a promise is a promise & then your devotional was called that the next day too & it was a promise of marriage restoration…if there’s no coincidences then that would just be God right? Because what else would it be? That’s what I’m asking.

I’m not asking you to prove it to me. I’m really just trying to understand how God speaks & if things aren’t coincidences then they’re God? I just don’t know what else He could be answering me about…or telling me – truly I have spoken; truly I will do it. Be assured. I will do it. There’s only one thing I continually talk to Him about. & there is a or has to be a reason I saw that same specific verse 3 times that says that.

I hear what you’re saying, but right now me & God are the only ones wanting it…

I’m praying & hoping God will intervene & make a way in the judge ordering marriage counseling. I’m praying God would humble my husband & show him he is not in control & God is. That God is the one who gave me the idea for this so that He would do it.
Otherwise I don’t know what all these “non coincidences” would be for since God is the one who really opened up that door. & if God does want my marriage saved & restored which we know He does because of everything you just pointed out from His word, then I don’t see why He wouldn’t do this for me & for my marriage. He doesn’t want divorce so wouldn’t He want to intervene this way to save it? He’s in control so He can move on the judges heart to have the counseling ordered. He could also move on my husbands heart, but obviously I haven’t seen that yet.

Sarah
Sarah
1 month ago
Reply to  Makenzie

I’m certain what he saw in the way of stander material made a positive impression. As for the snub to the birthday present, take it as a direct insult from our adversary the insolent devil. devil wants you to be discouraged.

Makenzie
Makenzie
1 month ago
Reply to  Sarah

Yes I pray it convicts his heart & it’s something he continues to think on. God just needs to get ahold of his heart… & there is me telling God what to do…

Sarah
Sarah
1 month ago
Reply to  Lalitha

Amen!

Sarah
Sarah
1 month ago

Can anyone explain blasphemy of the Holy Spirit? Not clear on what it means or how it looks or sounds.

Alicia
Alicia
1 month ago
Reply to  Sarah

Read Mark chapter 3, verses 20-30. This may help for clarification.

Alicia
Alicia
1 month ago
Reply to  Alicia

The teachers of the Law were accusing Jesus of being demon possessed and using powers of satan to drive out demons. This was slander against the power of the Holy Spirit which is blasphemy.

Sarah
Sarah
1 month ago
Reply to  Alicia

Thank you.

Alicia
Alicia
1 month ago
Reply to  Sarah

Any time!

Kim Hardwick
Kim Hardwick
1 month ago

Holy Spirit brought to my mind. One of the things Bob said in his book. Prodigals say things THEY DON’T mean; MEAN Things THEY Can’t/Allow to say. I hope this helps someone.

Alicia
Alicia
1 month ago
Reply to  Kim Hardwick

Yes! This reminds me of what I read this morning.

Romans 7:14-25

We know that the law is spiritual; but I am unspiritual, sold as a slave to sin. I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out.  For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it. So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord!

So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in my sinful nature a slave to the law of sin.

Makenzie
Makenzie
1 month ago
Reply to  Kim Hardwick

What does it mean by – they can’t/allow to say?

Sarah
Sarah
1 month ago
Reply to  Makenzie

Prodigals say things they don’t mean. They’ll also say stuff they don’t really mean in order to please/appease other person, ie stuff they’re not allowed to say or can’t say.

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