Mark 10 Nine

Are you happily married and looking for tips on maintaining a God-honoring marriage? This weekly devotional will give you encouragement for your marriage.

Will You Fight for Your Family?

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. Philippians 2:3-4

Our eyes have been glued to the media recently as we watch the horror in Ukraine unfold. The citizens are united and fighting with all they have for their homes, families, and country. Many reports say that the Russian troops are surprised by the resistance they have encountered.

I can’t help but think about the parallels I see between the behavior of these precious Ukrainian people and marriage. This country has faced a fierce adversary, and instead of giving up or giving in, they are standing their ground, ready to go to war to protect their homeland. 

Are we willing to go to battle when it comes to our families?

Will you fight for your marriage? I didn’t say fight in your marriage but fight for your marriage.  We have an enemy who wants to destroy our homes. If the devil can disrupt our marriages, it will impact far more than just two people. There will be children affected, extended family members, co-workers, friends, and others.

Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that the family of believers throughout the world is undergoing the same kind of sufferings. 1 Peter 5:8-9 

It can be easy to simply exist in our marriages and families without much intention. Maybe you realize that weeks have passed without any meaningful conversation with your spouse. Have things become so cold in your marriage that physical intimacy is no longer pursued?

Have you become so busy working on your own hobbies and interests that you don’t invest in your kids’ lives? When was the last time you were alone with one of your children and asked about their fears, challenges, or dreams?

It is never too late to be the spouse or the parent God has called you to be. Our families are the foundation of society for future generations. There is hope for your family, but it will take work. Will you fight for your family?

  1. Become a person of prayer. Colossians 4:2 tells us to devote ourselves to prayer. Don’t just pray the popcorn prayers for your family, but instead become a prayer warrior for them. Go to your family and ask how you can be praying specifically for them. Then commit to praying regularly with them and for them.
  1. Put your spouse’s needs ahead of your own. Philippians 2:3-4 says that we should consider others before ourselves. Does your spouse feel like an intrusion on your plans, or do they realize how valued they are? Ask the Lord to show you practical ways you could put your spouse’s needs and wants ahead of your own. Could you help with chores around the house or yard? Is there a big project happening at work that would allow you to take some of the burden at home for this season? Could you put your phone away and spend time with your spouse?
  1. Become a great communicator. We all have different personality styles and methods of communicating. Some people must share every thought and struggle, and others are what I call “stuffers.” They keep their thoughts close and rarely share. In marriage, it is essential to be a good communicator. Through love, you can share your hopes, dreams, and frustrations with your spouse. If you never share your thoughts, how can your spouse know how to love and serve you? Any battle has a carefully drawn-out plan complete with strategies. There must be open communication in marriage.

Your marriage and family are worth the battle. Today can be the day you draw a line in the sand and inform the enemy that he is not getting your marriage or your children.

It’s never too late to start the battle!

God Bless,

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