Mark 10 Nine

Are you happily married and looking for tips on maintaining a God-honoring marriage? This weekly devotional will give you encouragement for your marriage.


Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Your marriage matters. It matters not only to God but also to your family, friends, and those around you. It is heartbreaking to see how many people throw their marriages away. They refuse to fight for their marriage because they would rather fight in their marriage.

Have you put as much energy into coming up with the ways your spouse blesses you as you have into things they do wrong? I heard one person talk about the affair her husband had. She said the affair was the tip of the iceberg that was above the water. What was unseen below was the decisions, arguments, bad attitudes, and angst that she and her husband contributed to. She felt those minutes, days, and months of not investing in their marriage eventually led to both of them choosing to invest their time and energy in other people.

Jesus has a vision for your marriage. He wants a couple looking to Him for how to have a successful marriage. He wants to create something beautiful that glorifies Him through your marriage.

Are you fully committed to your marriage, or are you holding on to a portion of yourself because of past hurts, disappointments, and heartbreak? We can get so invested in our rights that we stop investing in our marriage. Don’t become paralyzed by fear in your marriage. As we start a new year, it is a great time to start with a clean slate. It is time to look forward.

Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 3:13-14


How do you want your marriage to look different in 2022? Make time to sit down with your spouse in the next couple of weeks and have an honest conversation about the state of your marriage.

I know that discussing the highs and lows may feel uncomfortable, but it can be a meaningful time in your marriage. What are your frustrations? Where have you failed as a spouse? What brings you joy in your marriage?

If you never take the time to talk about where you have been, you will never be able to make a plan to move forward with God at the center of your home.

You are either moving closer together as a couple or further apart. Don’t let the slow drift happen in your marriage. Let’s work on destroying that iceberg before it gets any bigger.

I shared with the readers of our Restored and Redeemed devotional how my husband and I did this last year. We made it a special date night. We took a journal and made time to talk about the difficult topics, the fun topics, and prayed and dreamed together. We tried to make sure we were going into a new year with intention.

We messed up a lot over the year and didn’t always make it a point to return to our list to get refocused, but overall, our dreaming and planning talk was a huge milestone in our family.

We started a journal, and each took time to write out our answers. It is something we can add to each year.

Here are some questions to get you started if you aren’t sure where to begin:

  1. What is something you learned from last year?
  2. What were your biggest disappointments from last year?
  3. What is a dream or desire that has been at the forefront of your mind?
  4. What goals do you have for the new year in these areas?
    • Personal time with God
    • Giving
    • Sharing Christ with others
    • Marriage
    • Family
    • Career
  5. How can you encourage one another throughout the year?

The goal is to have some intentional time together as a husband and wife. Life can get so busy with jobs, kids, and other responsibilities. Make this a special time with your spouse to realign yourself with each other and the Lord.

What other questions would you add to this list? Head over to our website and comment below the devotional to share any other tips you would add.

Your marriage matters! Give it the time and attention it deserves and watch it flourish.

God Bless,

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